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Month: March 2006
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And I’d Like to Thank My Coach
J. Emilio Flores for The New York Times
David Brownstein, standing, Scott Zakarin, right, and Rich Tackenberg.
March 26, 2006
And I’d Like to Thank My Coach
By MIREYA NAVARRO
LOS ANGELES
WHENEVER Bryce Dallas Howard teased her dad, the actor and director Ron Howard, about how much actors are paid, he’d say, “It’s so that they can afford their therapist.”
But decades after her father made it in Hollywood, Ms. Howard, 25, is making her own way in acting, and she’s therapist-free. She sees a life coach instead. Ms. Howard, who is on location filming “Spider-Man 3,” said her coach helps her navigate the demands of show business on her own terms, including making time for writing and protecting a degree of privacy during press interviews without losing her cool.
“It’s not about rehashing the past,” said Ms. Howard, who said she’s “really into self-improvement.” She called Sherri Ziff Lester, her coach, after a manager friend passed on her name last year.
“With Sherri,” she said, “it’s, ‘Let’s talk about this week.’ She asks me a series of questions so that I see my priorities and decide what I need to do.”
Life coaching has become a staple on television, with coaches helping sort out the lives of single men, ugly ducklings, sexually unsatisfied wives and other women in shows like “Nip/Tuck,” “The Swan,” “Starting Over” and “Modern Men.” Life coaches, with their vague self-helpish title, have also come in for considerable skepticism and ribbing. “The Daily Show With Jon Stewart” just this week devoted a sketch to poking fun at the coaching and “coachees” who become coaches themselves.
But behind the scenes life coaches are also finding plenty of work in the entertainment business. As their ranks swell nationwide — the International Coach Federation says its membership has doubled to 9,500 personal and business coaches since 2001, 56 percent of them in the United States — a growing roster is specializing in celebrities and Hollywood.
Although the federation does not keep track of coach specialties, coaches who devote themselves to the entertainment business — many of them former actors, television network executives, film producers or scriptwriters who sell their services as insiders — say they have seen more acceptance and a doubling and even tripling of demand for their services in the last three or four years.
Life coaches, who are unregulated and vary widely in their training and credentials, say they help clients define and pursue career and personal goals. The action- and results-oriented approach, they add, is appealing in a business where so much seems left to chance and few are prepared for success when it happens.
In a profession with a propensity for coaching — the acting coach, the voice coach, the writing coach — there appears to be room for one more coach, the one in charge of happiness, not to be confused with the old-school therapist.
“The difference between life coaching and therapy is that psychotherapy is about helping people heal their wounds,” said Phil Towle, a psychotherapist and life coach, “and coaching is about helping people achieve the highest level of their fulfillment or happiness or success, whether they’re wounded or not.” Mr. Towle’s work (at the rate of $40,000 a month) with quarreling members of the band Metallica was chronicled in the 2004 documentary “Metallica: Some Kind of Monster.”
Performers, directors, writers and others can now find workshops and programs with names like Center Your Celebrity and War and Peace in the Writers’ Room, and they can find certificates for free coaching sessions in gift bags at events like the Oscars and the Video Music Awards.
Coaches say personnel officials at studios and production companies are also increasingly calling on them not just to groom executives in management skills (the traditional use of executive coaching in major corporations), but also to troubleshoot in situations like helping a young producer handle personality and power clashes on a production.
Scott Zakarin, 42, a film and television producer who most recently produced the reality series “Kill Reality” on E! and “The Scorned,” the movie spawned by the show, credits his coach with saving his company. He said he turned to a life coach, David Brownstein, a few years ago because of confrontations and finger pointing in his production company and now has Mr. Brownstein on call as he strives to run his business without subsuming what he calls the visionary nature of his work.
Mr. Zakarin, who said he knew Mr. Brownstein when the coach was a film producer himself, said friends who have formed their own production companies have their own life coaches to deal with similar problems.
“Once they have their offices feng shui’d, coaching seems to be the next thing,” he said.
Penelope Brackett, a career and life coach in New Jersey, said she was virtually alone when she started coaching performers in theater, television and film in New York in the early 1990′s. In the last two years, she said, even drama schools have embraced the concept of “getting a life and not just building a career or devoting yourself to craft excellence.”
A former actor, director and producer who last year published “Seven Keys to Success Without Struggle,” a life-coaching book for performers, written with Lester Thomas Shane, Ms. Brackett said she is regularly asked to give seminars at universities like Brandeis and Rutgers.
Life coaches, who work in person or by phone and whose rates usually start at over $100 a session, partly credit the increased demand for their services to decentralized and scattered families: the life coach, some say, takes the place of the mother, father or some other elder, who gave counsel through life’s decisions and conflicts. That many people have more than one career and are searching for pursuits with more meaning also plays a role, they say.
In Hollywood coaches deal with short-term goals like easing writer’s block so that a script gets finished as well as more encompasing challenges like hardening up-and-comers to take rejection or keeping those who make it from losing their heads in celebrity.
“Being famous is not what it looks like on E!” said Ms. Ziff Lester, a former writer on television shows like “Beverly Hills 90210″ and “Baywatch.” “It hits you like a tidal wave, and unless you can navigate that ocean, you will drown.”
Carmit Maile, 31, the redheaded member of the Pussycat Dolls sextet, who recently changed her name from Carmit Bachar, said she started telephone sessions with Ms. Ziff Lester last July to keep her focused on what she wants to accomplish. The Dolls debut album, “PCD,” went platinum, and just last week they embarked on a national tour, opening for the Black Eyed Peas.
Ms. Maile, who said she found a certificate for Ms. Ziff Lester’s services in a gift bag given to performers at a concert last year, added that she does not want success to keep her from working with children with cleft lip and palate.
Ms. Maile, who had surgery for cleft palate, said she endured rejection in show business and wants to be a role model for girls like her who are not picture perfect. “My worry is to get lost in the shuffle of superstardom and not make an impact as a human being,” she said, calling her coach a facilitator to help her stay the course. “There’s so much that goes on that it’s easy to lose your grounding.”
Success can bring just as much soul searching behind the camera. Jeff Davis, 30, the creator and an executive producer of “Criminal Minds,” a drama on CBS, went to a coach as he was trying to cope, he said, with “the struggles of political fights and wrangling of egos” that he found when his show went on television.
“I found myself going from writing scripts in a coffee shop one day to producing a television show in the blink of an eye,” he said.
He described the difference as “working with 100 people, finding myself swamped with questions and having to become a leader when you’ve hardly been doing it on your own.” Mr. Davis, who said he was referred to his coach, Mr. Brownstein, by his studio, added, “I never had so many meetings in my life.”
Through coaching sessions twice a month, Mr. Davis got in touch, he said, with “my inner killer” and learned when to summon it and when to be nice.
He said he also realized he wanted to create another show, for which he said he is about to write the pilot.
The results, he said, have won him over to life coaching, despite his initial skepticism.
“The entertainment industry can certainly use some help, considering the number of lunatics who work in it,” Mr. Davis added. “It’s literally like having a personal trainer. A life coach’s job is to push you.”
But critics see life coaches as the ultimate overindulgence.
“This is for people with too much money,” said Jon Winokur, a Los Angeles writer who included the term life coach in his Encyclopedia Neurotica, a 2005 volume of “tics, twitches and safety-valve nuttiness,” which also includes entries like “retail therapy.”
“You can find a market or a constituency for all kinds of insanity here,” Mr. Winokur said.
The American Psychotherapy Association does not have an official position on coaches, but Kelly Snider, speaking for the association, said “coaches need to be responsible for recognizing if there’s a problem that must be dealt with by someone in the field of psychology.”
The International Coach Federation acknowledges that only a fraction of its members have gone through its certification process, which requires specific training and exams, because coaching has become more formalized only in the last decade or so. It urges consumers to shop around for those specifically trained in coaching skills.
Those who pay for life coaches, sometimes at a financial sacrifice, say they need the supportive kick in the pants.
“Life coaching has organized me and helped me do stuff more strategically,” said Ari Shine, 30, a singer and songwriter who sees T. C. Conroy, a Hollywood coach who draws on her experience in the music business, including work with bands as a production coordinator. She is the former wife of Dave Gahan of the British band Depeche Mode.
Ms. Conroy’s session with Mr. Shine on a recent Thursday took the form of brainstorming over the best booking agent for him. During another session, with Nancy Noever, a production manager for television commercials in her 40′s who is trying to sell her first television script, the coaching blurred the professional with the personal.
“Weight is never where I want it to be, financial is never where I want it to be, time management is never what I want it to be,” Ms. Noever said, as she sat on a sofa sipping from a water bottle across from Ms. Conroy, who took notes on a clipboard. “I have to figure out why can’t I put myself first.”
“Why you haven’t put yourself first,” Ms. Conroy corrected, noting she could do it.
Ms. Noever plotted ways to pay attention to her priorities — finishing the last 15 pages of her script, starting to lose 25 pounds, getting rid of her debt — with the expectation of not doing it perfectly the first time, as long as she set things in motion.
“I’m much more important than a McDonald’s commercial,” she said, her confidence renewed.
Copyright 2006The New York Times Company
Memory Trick
How to Remember Lists of Words With the Memory Trick
The memory trick, which is similar to the method of loci, is a 2500 year-old way to memorize lists of words that are as long as 10, 25, even 100 items long. It can be done simply by spending about 30 minutes memorizing certain pictures. After that, you will be able to remember at least 25 words forward, backward, or out of order.
Steps
- Think of twenty-five picture-words. Here’s an idea for the first five. Keep in mind, they can be anything.
- Number one – visualize a solitary, lonely lighthouse, one that stands way off by itself. It even looks like a “1.”
- Number two – eyeglasses. Think of it as “two, two eyes, two glasses for reading.”
- Number three – stool. A stool usually has three legs. That’s why it’s a symbol for three.
- Number four – window. Four, because it is a rectangle with four sides and four corners. It may even have four panes.
- Number five – hand. A hand has five fingers.
- Number one – visualize a solitary, lonely lighthouse, one that stands way off by itself. It even looks like a “1.”
- Spend about half an hour memorizing their parts in the list. Repeat them in your head. Start by saying “one” and picturing the lighthouse in your head. Then “two” and picturing eyeglasses in your head, etc.
- Test yourself by making a list of random words (25 of them) and trying to remember them by putting each word with the corresponding picture. If number one on your list is a lion, try picturing a lion roaming around your lighthouse. If number five is a car, try picturing a giant hand waving out the back of the car.
- After putting the words with pictures, say the list to yourself a few times. Ask someone to call out the numbers one through 25 forward, backward, and out of order, so you can say the list to them.
Tips
- The picture-words can be anything that makes you think of the number. Anything that looks like a one, or sounds like one or even is part of a song with one, can be used for one.
- The crazier your words with pictures are, the more you will be able to remember them. A cat (corresponding with the number 9, for 9 lives) shampooing itself will definitely make an impression. You are more likely to remember something strange.
- Alternatively, instead of associating pictures with numbers (i.e. Lighthouse = 1, glasses = 2, etc as suggested here), it can help if you memorize letters of the alphabet. Since we all grew up saying “A for Apple, B for Bell” etc, the association of objects with letters is considerably easier to make than objects with numbers. Drawback of course is that this is limited to a list of 26 or fewer items.
- Instead of imagining these colorful images, consider whispering them to yourself.
- Another easily rememberable technique is to use a common set of word-number pairs, such as: 1=bun, 2=shoe, 3=tree, 4=door, 5=hive, 6=sticks, 7=heaven, 8=gate, 9=vine, 10=pen
- Linking pictures to something humourous or phyically painful helps with remembering your list.
Warnings
- Although this method will help you memorize items, it is always a better idea to read material to understand it better
Kiddie Corps Carries L.S.U. to Final Four
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Glen Davis, who had 26 points, shooting over LaMarcus Aldridge.
March 26, 2006
Atlanta Regional
Kiddie Corps Carries L.S.U. to Final Four
By RAY GLIER
ATLANTA, March 25 — The turning point in Louisiana State’s season came Jan. 7, when it lost by a point to Connecticut, then ranked No. 2, in Hartford. It was the Tigers’ fifth loss in 13 games, but at least they could feel good about coming close against a powerhouse on the road.
Suddenly, the Tigers did not feel like an 8-5 team. They felt much better about themselves than their record should have allowed.
“It was an eye-opening experience for us and our capabilities as a team,” said Darrel Mitchell, L.S.U.’s only senior. “For us to go up there and do that showed us a lot.”
The Tigers then reeled off seven straight victories, and they have ridden that momentum into the Final Four by beating Texas, 70-60, in overtime Saturday in an N.C.A.A. tournament regional championship game in the Georgia Dome. It was the Tigers’ 11th victory in their last 12 games.
L.S.U. (27-8), seeded fourth, scored the first 7 points in overtime and went on to finish off the second-seeded Longhorns (30-7). The Tigers were led by their fearless inside players, the sophomore center Glen Davis, who scored 26 points, and the redshirt freshman forward Tyrus Thomas, who had 21 points, 13 rebounds and 3 blocked shots.
Davis and Thomas, who were born in 1986, the last year L.S.U. appeared in the Final Four, bounded around the court and yelled to fans after the final buzzer. They have been the benchmark players for a team that has relied on stifling defense and inside scoring in winning four games in the tournament.
L.S.U. will next play U.C.L.A., which defeated Memphis, 50-45, to reach the national semifinals Saturday in Indianapolis.
The Tigers lost five games by a total of 11 points before they started Southeastern Conference play in January. They were picked to win the conference’s Western Division, but with only one senior, it looked for a while like they might have trouble finishing out games.
“It’s just a will and determination to get back up again after you get slugged by a tough team,” Davis said. “You got to be willing to take some shots.”
The Tigers allowed some shots Saturday, particularly by Texas center LaMarcus Aldridge, but he made just 2 of 14 field-goal attempts and finished with 4 points. Aldridge averaged 18 points and shot 54 percent from the field in the first three games of the tournament.
“West Virginia is nonphysical around the goal and allowed him to shoot freely,” L.S.U. Coach John Brady said of the Longhorns’ opponent in the regional semifinals. “Glen got a body on him, without fouling, and pushed him outside.”
The 6-foot-10 Aldridge said that he had simply missed shots and that Davis and Thomas had not done anything in particular defensively. Aldridge, who, if he declares this year, is considered to be a top N.B.A. draft pick, would not discuss whether he would return for his junior season.
Texas forward P. J. Tucker, the Longhorns’ leading scorer, also had an off night, making just 4 of 11 shots from the field and finishing with 10 points. Texas was able to stay in the game because it made 10 of 29 3-point attempts, while L.S.U. made 3 of 18.
The Longhorns trailed, 52-49, in regulation when Daniel Gibson hit a 3-pointer from the top of the key with 32 seconds left to tie the score. Davis rushed a shot from the left wing that would have won it in regulation for the Tigers.
But L.S.U., which lost close games to Houston, Ohio State, Northern Iowa and Cincinnati in December, knew what to do under the pressure of overtime.
Tasmin Mitchell scored immediately to make it 54-52. After a steal, L.S.U. guard Garrett Temple watched Davis get double-teamed on the foul line, then sneaked under the basket and took a pass from Mitchell for an easy field goal to give the Tigers a 56-52 lead.
After another Texas turnover, Davis hit a 3-pointer from the top of the key and L.S.U. led by 59-52 two minutes into overtime. It was just Davis’s sixth 3-pointer of the season.
“It’s called thinking without thinking,” he said. “Most of the time when I’m shooting or when I’m shooting 3′s, I’m thinking about it too much. So I was just in rhythm, and I felt it was a great shot and I made it.”
Texas closed within 59-54 with 2 minutes 26 seconds to play, but the Longhorns could not get any offense inside from Aldridge or Tucker and had to launch desperation jump shots that would not fall.
“There’s no ifs and buts about it, I mean, they played great D,” Texas forward Brad Buckman said.
The Tigers also got an impressive offensive effort from Thomas, who was the game’s dominant player in the first half. He dunked three times after lob passes and had 8 points on 4-of-6 shooting at halftime.
Thomas then carried L.S.U. the first 10 minutes of the second half. He made 10 of 14 field-goal attempts over all, many on short baseline jumpers, and was just as valuable on defense by discouraging shots inside with his shot-blocking ability.
“We’re still humble and hungry,” Thomas said after the game.
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Florida Not Experiencing Any Sophomore Jinx
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Florida has four sophomores in its starting lineup, including, from left, forward Joakim Noah, guard Taurean Green and forward Al Horford.
March 26, 2006
Minneapolis Regional
Florida Not Experiencing Any Sophomore Jinx
By LEE JENKINS
MINNEAPOLIS, March 25 — The starting lineup for the Florida Gators was assembled mainly by the university’s department of housing and residence education.
The day Joakim Noah walked onto campus, carrying all of his possessions in three duffel bags, he went looking for his new roommates. Meeting the roommates can be an agonizing exercise for any college freshman. But Noah found them in a most predictable place — in the gym, on the basketball court.
That was the first sign they would get along. Noah became known as Sticks, because of his lanky frame. Taurean Green was nicknamed Beanie Baby. Al Horford was The Horf. Corey Brewer was C.B. To outsiders, they were Florida’s decorated recruiting class of 2004. To one another, they became the 04′s, the nickname they bestowed upon themselves.
They have led Florida, seeded third in the Minneapolis Regional, to a 30-6 record. The Gators play top-seeded Villanova (28-4) on Sunday in the regional final.
Now that the 04′s are one game from the Final Four, they are measuring their progress in terms of campus accommodations. As freshmen, they lived in a dorm in the Springs Residential Complex, two to a room, one bathroom for the four of them. As sophomores, they were upgraded to a suite in the Keys Residential Complex, where everyone has his own bedroom.
“Next year, we’re thinking about moving into a house,” Horford said. “But houses are hard to find.”
Florida fans will undoubtedly rejoice at the news that the four roommates are house hunting, an indication that they may actually return for their junior seasons. All four are starters and three — Noah, Horford and Brewer — are projected first-round picks in the N.B.A. draft.
But if they leave, there will be no more lotion wars, no more water fights and no more science classes that require them to dress like insects. For all the hotbeds of basketball talent in the South, none has been more impressive than the four-bedroom suite in Gainesville, Fla.
Without the residents of that one apartment, Florida fans would be concentrating on spring football. With them, the Gators’ basketball team has won 30 games in a season for the first time. Green runs the offense, Noah runs the break, Brewer drives the lane and Horford anchors the post. Their rapport, uncanny for a batch of sophomores, developed before coaches even put them on the court together.
When the 04′s were not watching movies, playing video games or eating pizza last year, they would head to the basketball court. They took any pickup game they could get, as long as they were on the same team. Green needed to learn where Noah wanted the ball. Horford needed to know when Brewer was going to shoot. They were, in a sense, practicing away from practice.
“We would play every day,” Horford said. “It’s going to be us four against you, wherever you want. That’s how it started.”
The pickup games provided relief from the frustration of the college games. Because of Florida’s accomplished upperclassmen, Green was forced to play shooting guard. Brewer was labeled a defensive stopper. Horford was pigeonholed as a rebounder. Noah spent most of his time on the bench.
If one of them had achieved stardom without the others, the dorm-room dynamic might have become touchy. But their struggle kept them together.
The expectations of each as recruits were equally high, mainly because of their famous bloodlines. Noah’s father, Yannick, was a tennis star. Green’s father, Sidney, and Horford’s father, Tito, played in the N.B.A. Brewer, the lone McDonald’s all-American among them, was also the only one whose parents were not professional athletes.
“We clicked immediately,” Brewer said. “I think it was because we are so different.”
Noah is from New York, by way of Paris, and is the most likely to engage in a political debate or watch a foreign film. Horford is from Puerto Plata in the Dominican Republic, and likes to show off his Spanish accent. Brewer is from Portland, Tenn., and is as unassuming as his hometown. Green is from Fort Lauderdale, Fla., and grew up with N.B.A. stars stopping by for dinner.
The players can tell one another’s stories, having spent an estimated 18 hours a day together for the past two years. “We don’t get tired of each other,” Green said. “We say we do, but we’re just joking around. It’s to a point where we know when to give each other space.”
That was more difficult in their freshman year, with the cramped quarters and lone bathroom. This year is peaceful by comparison. Of course, by next year, the 04′s could have as much space as they want.
Or they could find that a cozy four-bedroom in Gainesville has all the square footage they need.
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U.C.L.A in Final Four
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U.C.L.A.’s Ryan Hollins putting the squeeze on Cedric Bozeman after the Bruins advanced to their first Final Four since 1995
March 26, 2006
Oakland Regional
It Wasn’t Pretty, but U.C.L.A. Prevails in a Battle of Attrition
By PETE THAMEL
OAKLAND, Calif., March 25 Thankfully for second-seeded U.C.L.A., basketball milestones are not graded on style points.
If aesthetics mattered, this U.C.L.A. team would have long been dispatched from the N.C.A.A. tournament. But it’s the final score that counts. By slugging out a 50-45 victory over top-seeded Memphis to win the Oakland Regional on Saturday, the Bruins added to their program’s storied history by clinching their 16th berth in the Final Four.
The way it looked the game was the lowest-scoring regional final in the shot-clock era by a staggering 15 points certainly did not change the way it felt.
“I can’t even explain how incredible it feels,” U.C.L.A. guard Jordan Farmar said. “Besides the guys in the locker room, no one really believed in us.”
By surviving a battle of attrition, the Bruins tied North Carolina for the most Final Four appearances. In Indianapolis, they will play fourth-seeded Louisiana State, an overtime winner over second-seeded Texas in the Atlanta Regional, for a chance at adding to their Division I-record 11 national titles.
They advanced despite missing 16 of their first 21 free throws, making just 14 field goals and not converting from the field in the game’s final 3 minutes 13 seconds. The senior guard Cedric Bozeman, the last Bruin to cut down the net in the postgame celebration, admitted that if he were watching at home on television, he would have probably turned the game off.
But instead, he and his fellow senior Ryan Hollins will be leading U.C.L.A. to its first Final Four appearance since 1995, when it won the championship.
Hollins emerged as the most fitting of stars; he had 14 points and 9 rebounds to win most valuable player honors for the region. But Hollins will best be remembered in this game for his ineptitude at the free-throw line. He shot just 2 for 11, the biggest culprit on a day the Bruins shot 20 for 39 from the stripe.
He recalled telling himself on the bench: “I’ll never forgive myself for the rest of my life if we lose this game and I missed nine free throws. It’s like, we’re going to win this game, we’re getting it up. I’m not going to go out like that.”
And Hollins made sure U.C.L.A. won by stealing an Antonio Anderson pass with just under a minute remaining to seal the game. His steal set up two Bozeman free throws that put U.C.L.A. ahead, 46-39, with 52 seconds to go.
Memphis missed 11 of its first 12 shots from the field and its first 14 3-pointers, but its ineptitude down the stretch provided a convenient snapshot of their struggles.
Darius Washington Jr., the only Tigers player to score in double digits, with 13 points, dove in the lane for an acrobatic layup with 2:59 remaining, making the score 44-39. But the Tigers’ next three possessions consisted of a travel by Joey Dorsey, a missed 3-pointer by Rodney Carney and Hollins’s steal.
For the second consecutive game, U.C.L.A. left the opposition’s best player collapsed in a heap of disappointment on the court at the buzzer. On Thursday, the Gonzaga star Adam Morrison crumpled to the floor after U.C.L.A. scored the game’s final 11 points in an improbable victory.
On Saturday it was Carney, whom Arron Afflalo held to just 5 points and 2-for-12 shooting. Carney played only 26 minutes because of foul trouble and never looked in rhythm.
“We just couldn’t make a basket,” Memphis Coach John Calipari said. “Please make a basket. Make a free throw. Anything. Kick one in.”
Memphis’s foul trouble and offensive ineptitude played right into U.C.L.A.’s game plan, which was to slow the pace and limit the Tigers’ transition opportunities. U.C.L.A. was so disruptive that Memphis’s guards finished with just one assist. The Tigers’ 21 first-half points were their lowest output all season, and they finished with nearly half of the 88 points that they scored when they defeated the Bruins at Madison Square Garden in November.
“That defense caused us to do what we did,” Calipari said. “The bump and grind of it, the physical play of it. When they needed to shut somebody down, they did.”
The concern about the Tigers heading into the Round of Eight was how they would react to being tested. None of their first three opponents, No. 16-seeded Oral Roberts, No. 9-seeded Bucknell and No. 13-seeded Bradley, hailed from a major conference.
Memphis had shot just under 54 percent in those three blowout victories, but the Tigers shot 31 percent Saturday.
“I don’t think I could even dream about that,” Farmar said of holding Memphis to 45 points.
Coach Ben Howland has the Bruins back in the Final Four in his third season in Westwood. Howland came in preaching the defensive style that took Pittsburgh from the doldrums of the Big East to a perennial contender in the conference. And while his style defies West Coast basketball convention, the results can’t be argued with.
Everyone in the U.C.L.A. locker room agreed that while the trip to Indianapolis is nice, the result that everyone in Westwood wants has not arrived yet.
“At U.C.L.A., no other banner but national championships go up,” Farmar said.
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CRUSHED BY HISTORY
3am Interview
CRUSHED BY HISTORY
3AM: Tell us about the new book.
NC: The book is called The Condemned. There are three short story books of about forty pages each in it. The first, ‘The Warrior’, is about an impoverished pregnant dancer who is on coke and painkillers while she is pregnant. The story is not about the drug addiction, or motherhood. It is about the effects poverty has on the human mind. In fact it is an anti-motherhood novel. I wrote it because there are so many drug addict novels, but they are always about a fallen bourgeoisie. But the majority of people who do drugs aren’t like William Burroughs or an Easton Ellis character. The majority are poor who are trying to mentally escape the almost intolerable circumstances they are born into and expected to somehow live in. And I threw in the motherhood thing, because in America, we are told constantly that it is biologically impossible for a mother to not love her children. But all I have ever seen is mothers take out all their hate of the world out on their children.
The second is ‘Gratuitous Kink’. This book is a collection of sexual experiences. It has a man having sex with a Mexican she-male, men cock-sucking in a XXX theatre, sex in an Asian spa etc. I wrote the book because I wanted to show that kinky sex is normal in America now. And to demystify the sex in the book, that is usually considered perverted by the media. But in reality weird sex is a billion dollar business and it wouldn’t make billions unless it was completely normal like toilet paper or milk. It came out of meeting people at XXX theatres and swingers, that were just normal everyday people. You don’t need to be a hippy to have a kinky sex anymore.
The third is ‘Civilization’. This is my attempt at writing a type of ‘Waste Land’ or ‘Howl’ for the 9-11 generation. It is a series of stark, miserable, god-less, existential prose/poems. It starts off with the beginning of civilization. But instead of Adam and Eve, there is the version Engels and Sartre came up with. When man figured out that seeds made plants. Then it goes into the killing of everybody from Youngstown, showing how the U.S. government cares so little about industrial towns, it is like they are actually trying to kill them. A short story called ‘The Gun’ where a man realizes that he only works and does things because the government owns the guns, and he has to believe in these certain things or he dies. That if he steals the guns they will put him into jail, and if he doesn’t work and makes only enough not to die, and if he loses that job he starves to death, it is like he got killed by the government’s guns anyway. And also a part where media people just go, “goo goo gaa gaa.” Because the American media doesn’t say anything that matters or makes sense, so it is like they are speaking baby talk. And some more just like the stuff named above. The book comes out of hearing so many people from a generation say in bars and diners, “This world should be blown up, nothing will ever change.” It is about how a whole generation has become conscious that it is pointless to vote, to try, to care, that a few human beings bought everything, and have no intention of sharing.
The book as a whole is basically a rejection of the beatniks’ “Holy, holy, holy” philosophy. That America’s real crisis isn’t terrorists. It’s that the American system of government and media have become absurd and do not work in The Information Age. And that the “Holy, Holy, Holy” philosophy is not equipped to fight that. And that life is terrible and ugly and tough for a lot of Americans. Perhaps even to alert the world, that America isn’t the richest country in the world, it is a poor one, just because 10as so much, doesn’t mean they share it.
3AM: Do you reject writers like Burroughs and Easton Ellis then, or are you just trying to put more diverse fiction out there?
NC: No, I like both of them a lot. I want to show a different side to drug addiction that is never shown in the media or in books or movies. That drugs are used by people to escape reality, and that a lot of mothers use drugs to escape the reality of having children. I noticed that the biggest drug addicts I know are mothers, and that a lot weren’t doing as much or as hard drugs before they had kids. Which spawned the original thoughts for writing the book.
3AM: What about other transgressive authors at work today?
NC: The only one I’ve really read is Dennis Cooper. I like his book Sluts a lot. It was really fun. You could tell he was having a lot of fun writing it. I enjoyed it even more, because I’ve engaged in a lot of blog thread battles and conversations. And know how a blog thread can get really out of hand. And how people could try to prove things on a blog thread. But it doesn’t really matter. Because it a blog thread and no one knows each other and in the end most of it is just bullshit. That part in Sluts when the doctor cuts the kid’s balls off and puts them in the kid’s mouth, is insane. Sluts is a beautiful book.
3AM: What do you think of Bukowski?
NC: I think he is a direct influence on my writing. I read him later on. I’ve read all of Bukowski’s prose and really enjoy it. I’ve read a lot of strange things on Bukowski. In a town like Youngstown, there are 1000s of Bukowskis. You sit down in a dive and there are five there, all telling these great stories. Bukowski has taught me to understand those men. He gave a voice to the working class, that no one in American literature has touched yet. Nothing really ever great happens in a Buwkowski story, you get the feeling, these are characters with long suffering lives, that every once in a while something absurd happens to them. I like that, it’s truthful, that is what life is really like for most people.
3AM: You mentioned drugs in films. Do you like stuff like Larry Clark?
NC: The films that have influenced me have been Rob Zombie’s horror movies, House of a 1000 Corpses and The Devil’s Rejects. In those movies he has a lot of scenes that would be in regular movies. But instead of taking the usual movie route, he goes in a different direction, and shows the absurdity of human life. And also, especially in The Devil’s Rejects, he attacks the Manichean mindset full force. And also Wes Anderson movies, for their absurdity.
3AM: Do you see yourself as a domestic writer? Is there a parochialism to your work? Do you wonder how it’s received abroad?
NC: I don’t know if I see myself as a domestic writer. I only write about America, all I know is America. But America is different all over. New York City doesn’t resemble Youngstown, Ohio at all. And Nebraska doesn’t resemble Florida at all. In personality types and behaviour I mean. I am domestic to towns that once had industry, but no longer have them. But places like New York City or Los Angeles I don’t know anything about. I’ve been to them, but I’m not representing the lives there in any real way.
I thought I would do good abroad, there seems to be a different outlook when it comes to existentialists and more thought-driven writing. But the only thing that made me assume that though was that in the fifties Europe had the Absurdists and Sartre and De Beauvoir. While America had the Beatniks and Catcher in the Rye. I think the Absurdists and the French existentialists are much more intelligent in their writing than the Americans were then. But it was really only an assumption.
3AM: In terms of the subject matter of ‘Gratuitous Kink’, what’s your view on social programmes that try to steer America away from that particular free for all?
NC: Those abstinence programs are fucking retarded. The U.S. government has a funny way of dealing with sex. Currently in Ohio they are trying to make it so every strip joint has to close. They can’t make a law to close strip joints, because getting naked is freedom of speech. But they can make laws like the girls have to be behind glass and random dumb shit like that. But here’s the thing with that. I was in Nebraska last year, and they have those types of laws. So there are no strip joints, but guess what they have, 12 escort services in a town of 40,000. The Republicans and Democrats don’t want sex to be in sight, they think it is unbecoming. But they don’t mind women being private whores and streetwalkers. But at the same time the U.S. government is working to make all these laws and abstinence programs, some of the Republicans’ biggest investors, including Fox’s Rupert Murdoch make millions off of porn from their cable boxes. The Hilton hotels’ second biggest source of income is porn, Paris Hilton is rich because of porn. That is America: endless contradictions.
3AM: You say that most Americans’ lot in life is bad but how do you square that with, say, the equivalent class in Latin America? Even someone on workfare in the US can, just about, afford a VCR. Have you read Barbara Ehrenreich’s stuff about US wage slavery?
NC: Minimum wage is $5.15 in America. No one gives minimum wage workers full time because they might have to give them 1/3 health care. So they work 38 hours a week. That is $782 a month, take out taxes that’s $700 dollars a month or 395. Let’s say you lived alone: $300 for rent, $100 for car insurance, phone $40. That leaves $160 to eat and drink booze. That isn’t that much.
You mentioned workfare or welfare. I know this girl who pops out babies and makes $800 a month for having a baby, and she has healthcare, and free college, and can get a car with government money. A man, who has no babies, gets nothing but school loans that won’t pay for a full semester of college. Which is absurd to me.
Also the cut-off in America to help get medication and go to the doctor is around $740 a month. If you work full time at a minimum wage job you have to pay full price for medication. And also, in America there is no free dental or eye care at all, no matter how poor you are, you must pay for it.
Currently I have a problem with my nose, I can barely breathe out of it. I went to the free clinic three times and they have refused to give me an x-ray. They will give me pills to slow the nasal drip. But they will not help you unless you are dying.
I deliver pizzas every night to people living in hotels, people living in cockroach-infested apartments. Some guy told me in Florida they have tons of people living in tent cities. I know a lot of people that have been put into jail for years for crimes they didn’t commit, but since they couldn’t afford a big-time lawyer, they went to prison. While Michael Jackson sleeps naked with children. You know if some poor redneck or some guy from the projects decided to sleep naked with his children, he would be in jail in a second and then have his balls burned off with lye. It is for sure worse in Latin America. America has the most money in the world, all that means to me is that they really fucking don’t have an excuse for this shit.
I haven’t read Barbara Ehrenreich. I work as a pizza boy for minimum wage and tips. Tonight I mopped a floor, washed dishes and listened to some girl talk about how one of her three babies’ daddies is the head crack dealer in a certain project and that he makes 55,000 a year and has only been shot in the face twice. I don’t know if I can read that, it is there, I’m right there, I am one of her characters. It is too painful.
3AM: Are you now or have you ever been a member of the Underground Literary Alliance?
NC: I was in the ULA last year for about six months. All I wanna say about that is, I don’t care for Wenclas’ zinester revolution, and I don’t care for Maud Newton’s world of awards and Paris Review‘s. Both of those people get on my nerves when they speak. I don’t know where I stand, somewhere in between, in a grey area, I don’t know. I have no interest in winning an award or being an underground legend or selling a million copies. There are 50,000 books published in America every year, and probably more than 500,000 submissions. The fact that some people want to publish my books and read my writing makes me really happy. The happiest moment I’ve ever had concerning writing was when some stoner kid that never reads, got through The Human War, and told me he really liked it and why.
3AM: You consider Sartre, Hemingway and Beckett as central influences.
NC: Sartre’s influence is his existentialism, his philosophy influences the ways I develop characters. Showing their bad faith, why people commit violence, showing that people are “condemned to freedom.” Hemingway’s short terse prose and how he always stayed in the concrete. Hemingway never went beyond the situation, God never enters a Hemingway story. And Beckett, his style influenced me, and his absurdism, that mankind is absurd, death is absurd, and our lack of communication also. That it is really hard for people to communicate. And if you listen to people talk to each other, they really aren’t most of the time.
3AM: What about Camus?
NC: I’ve read all of Camus, so I know Camus. But I find him simplistic. He always stops thinking at a certain point. Mostly because he did not want to accept that he was in history and that there is history. I choose Sartre over Camus. I agree with Sartre that violence is needed at times, and violence is part of history.
3AM: You mention the 9/11 Generation. Does that weigh heavily on you?
NC: I know 9-11 defines me in some way. I graduated high school to enter Bush’s world of terrorism and wars. 9-11 made me ask questions, like World War Two made Sartre and Beckett ask questions. A lot of hope was lost. A lot of strange behaviour has taken place here in America. Perhaps I’m not part of a generation. When the media shows the prototype of generations, the person never looks like me or anybody I know. I’ve been crushed by history.
Noah Cicero was born and lives in Youngstown, Ohio. He has a book called The Human War (out on Fugue State Press) and Burning Babies (Undie Press). The Condemned will come out on Six Gallery Press in March. He has had short fiction published in identity theory, Black Ice, Prague Literary Review, Nth Position and many other places.
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Saturday, March 25, 2006
‘Rollie’ a favorite with fans
March 25, 2006
‘Rollie’ a favorite with fans
By DAVID JONES
FLORIDA TODAY
MINNEAPOLIS — Walking through the crowd with former Villanova coach Rollie Massimino, in town for Friday’s regional semifinal games, was like venturing through an endless sea of handshakes.
“We have a lot of friends,” said Massimino, 71, who has been traveling with the Wildcats this season. “It’s been a great run. . . . I’ve got about 15 or 16 of my former players tonight.”
He was kissed and got hugs everywhere he went. Fans chanted, “Rollie” as he walked through the halls of the Metrodome during halftime of ‘Nova’s game against Boston College.
Massimino was Villanova’s head coach when it won the 1985 national title as an eighth seed, upsetting No. 1-seeded Georgetown 66-64 in the national title game. It is still considered one of the greatest upsets in NCAA Tournament play.
Massimino sat just behind the scorer’s table during Friday’s semis. Current Villanova coach Jay Wright was a Massimino assistant from 1987-92.
“Jay was one of my assistants for quite a while,” Massimino said. “I’m thrilled to see him doing so well.”
Massimino last coached at Cleveland State in 2003 but is planning a return to coaching next season at Northwood University in Palm Beach.
He said details are being finalized for his first game back on the bench to be against Florida in a preseason exhibition next fall. NCAA rules allow Division I teams to schedule lower-level teams for exhibitions in November. Northwood is an NAIA school.
He also said his first-year team will also play a game with Villanova on either Dec. 2 or Dec. 9.
“I’ve already got six kids on scholarship,” Massimino said. “It’s going to happen. I’m really excited about it.”
He coached against Florida coach Billy Donovan when he was known as Billy the Kid and played at Providence College.
“He’s a good kid,” Massimino said. “He was always a hard worker and he still is. I think he’s done a great job there.”
Memories. Donovan’s father, Bill, attended Friday’s games with some unusual emotions. He was excited to see his son on the Sweet 16 but also wanted to see his old college play.
“I’ve seen them on television a lot,” he said. “But I haven’t seen them live for about five or six years.”
Bill Donovan was a three-year letterman at Boston College and scored 1,014 career points. He was the school’s third all-time scorer when he left, averaging 16.6, 10.7 and 16.0 points.
The Donovans are close friends with Wright, so it was tough to decide who to cheer for between Boston College and Villanova.
“Very mixed emotions,” the elder Donovan said. “It’s kind of a strange feeling.”
Bill Donovan is still No. 31 on the Boston College all-time scoring list.
“But,” he said with a laugh, “it’s going down fast.”
Free throws. With teams from Boston, Philadelphia and Washington, D.C., in the regional semis, the media list was impressive both in the number of local papers and national publications covering play in Minneapolis. Newspapers ranged from Boston to New York to Denver to Los Angeles. . . . Joakim Noah’s father, Yannick, missed the game because he had a concert. The elder Noah, who was a tennis star in his playing days, is now a well-known reggae singer in France. . . . Georgetown reached the Sweet 16 for the 10th time. Florida had reached this point three other times.
Contact Jones at 321- 242-3682 or djones@flatoday.net
Tradition more than a mantra for Villanova
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Villanova’s Allan Ray goes up for a shot as he and Boston College’s Craig Smith fall in the first half of Friday’s regional semifinal in Minneapolis.
Tradition more than a mantra for Villanova
By KEVIN ROBERTS
Courier-Post Staff
MINNEAPOLIS
They sound alike, actually, in the way they quote former coach Rollie Massimino and the way they talk about Villanova basketball and the way they refused to look ahead and insisted on focusing on one game at a time.
Villanova coach Jay Wright was talking about how he wants to keep the former Wildcats players and alumni in the fold and around his team. Then he said: “It’s like Coach Mass used to say: Tradition doesn’t graduate.”
And then Friday Dwayne McClain, a forward on the 1985 national championship team, explained why he was so eager to be around the team and travel to Minnesota for this tournament run by saying: “It’s like Coach Massimino says: Tradition doesn’t graduate.”
So everybody’s on the same page.
And everybody was here Friday; or at least it seemed that way. Massimino and several players from that 1985 team were in the stands Friday for Villanova’s game against Boston College, sitting behind the Wildcats bench and rooting on their alma mater.
“I love Jay, I love these kids,” said Harold Jensen, the sixth man for that Villanova team. “Jay’s done a great job of helping the kids understand that there is a history to it. The players seem to understand they’re part of a bigger picture.
“Jay really has an appreciation of the university first, and the basketball program second. He’s really been a great communicator to the kids that there is a history and a legacy to this program — and how valuable that is.”
Jensen and McClain still live in the Philadelphia area, and said that making the trip wasn’t even a decision.
“Once the postseason starts, we’re there,” McClain said.
“It’s great to see what they’ve done; they’ve earned it,” Jensen said. “Villanova is going to be an upper-echelon program at a high level for years to come.”
Jensen wore a blue Villanova sweater, while McClain dressed in neutral colors but had a blue “V” painted on to his right hand. Jensen seemed relatively calm as he watched the game. McClain was more jittery.
“It’s worse than when I was playing,” McClain said. “When you’re down on the court you at least have a chance to determine what happens.
“I’m 20 years removed, and I still feel like I’m running up and down the court with the kids.”
Georgetown played the second game in this regional, and the presence of the two teams kicked off a lot of talk about the 1985 championship game. McClain said he never tires of the questions and the requests to discuss the game.
“To be honest, I can’t think of anything better to talk about,” McClain said. “Other than your children, or family, what’s better to talk about than that? If I’m only remembered for one thing, I’d like to be remembered for ’85. It never gets old.”
Not so much: You know who doesn’t like to be asked about the 1985 title game? Former Georgetown coach John Thompson.
Thompson is here doing color commentary for Westwood One radio, and he’s also on hand to support his son, John Thompson III, who is now coaching Georgetown.
Reporters approaching Thompson to get his memories of 1985 found the former coach didn’t have much reason to re-live that moment.
“I resent being asked about it,” Thompson said. “I’m asked about it more than I think about it. Falling is part of climbing. Those who don’t climb don’t know the importance of falling. If you run into a cave, you can’t fall. Well, I didn’t run into a cave. I earned the right to lose to Villanova.”
Once again: It’s a blessing being a number one seed. But it’s not a sure thing.
Never in the history of this tournament have all four number one seeds advanced to the Final Four. Only four years have all four number ones so much as reached the Elite Eight (1987, 1993, 2001 and 2003). Reach Kevin Roberts at kroberts@courierpostonline.com
Published: March 25. 2006 3:00AM
Bonnie Fuller.
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Bonnie Fuller.
March 26, 2006
Questions for Bonnie Fuller
Too Much Isn’t Enough
Interview by DEBORAH SOLOMON
Q: As a wife, a mother of four and a symbol of female accomplishment who has served as the editor of Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Us Weekly, Marie Claire and other magazines, why would you stoop to writing a book like “The Joys of Much Too Much,” which basically argues that greed is good?
I think it is good to be greedy in terms of your dreams and in terms of trying to have everything you want out of life. The road to the richest life is one in which you partake of careerhood, lovehood, mommyhood — all of those things.
But we can’t have everything. We’re in a moment of postfeminist Realpolitik, when women are realizing that juggling a job and family life requires some sacrifices. It’s impossible to do everything well all the time.
I’m not suggesting that you do. In fact, I say it’s O.K. — your house doesn’t have to be clean. You don’t have to have clean floors. Your drawers don’t have to perfect, and dishes can pile up in the sink. That’s part of my philosophy.
What philosophy is this? The philosophy of Dishevelism?
It’s certainly a philosophy of nonperfectionism. It’s O.K. to let newspapers and magazines and the mail pile up.
You mention several times in your book that you are the main breadwinner in your family. Are you boasting?
I do like it. I don’t mind it.
But how does your husband feel about that? You never even say what he does.
He is a self-employed architect. At one point, after we had our second child, he decided to take time off and stay home. I think he’s happy that at least one person in our family is a breadwinner.
And how are you faring as the editorial director of American Media, where you oversee many magazines, including the celebrity weekly Star?
I love overseeing Star. I love being at a newsmagazine and breaking a big story. I am much more sought after at dinner parties now. Most everybody is eager to ask me whether there is a contract between Tom and Katie, is Britney really pregnant, all the basics.
Fashion magazines teach readers to cultivate an aesthetic sense. What can one say about Star? Does it have any socially redeeming value?
A lot of the traditional women’s magazines are too much work. They are full of how-to service information, and that can feel like homework. It’s like how to ace a job interview, organize your desk, make a good impression on a first date, make sure he will call you back, paint your kitchen, not to look needy.
But didn’t you yourself promote that how-to-do-everything-better trend at Glamour?
It can make you feel inadequate! When you come home and want to relax, you may not want to read about improving yourself 100 percent. You might want to be satisfied with yourself and have a good laugh looking at what happened to Brad and Angelina this week.
What field do you think is a good one for young women now?
The field of celebrity journalism.
Oh, no. I hope that is not an expanding field.
Yes, it is. That’s why I suggested it. We’re all competing to find writers and editors who can do it. The circulation of the Star is 1.5 million every week, and then it’s 9.5 million readers, because it has a lot of pass-along readers.
>Where are you politically? Are you a registered Democrat?
I guess I am registered as a Democrat. I guess, because you have to register?
Right. You can be a Democrat, a Republic, an Independent.
No, I believe we registered as Democrats, my husband and I.
Perhaps Star could introduce a column on politics in time for the next elections.
We cover Hollywood’s political fund-raisers. A lot of people in Hollywood feel that Ben Affleck has a political career in his future as the senator from Massachusetts. But you have to stick to what works for your brand, and readers are not coming to Star to read a political column.
Which magazines do you subscribe to?
I don’t subscribe to any magazines. Subscriptions come too late for me, and I am too impatient. I have to get my magazines at the newsstand.
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Globalization 2.0
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A nuclear reactor in Trombay, India, not far from Mumbai, in 1959.
March 26, 2006
The Way We Live Now
Globalization 2.0
By DAVID RIEFF
Globalization is both unavoidable and of great benefit to the world as a whole. At least that has been the conventional wisdom for more than two decades now, except at the far fringes of the radical, antiglobalization left and the xenophobic, protectionist right. But is it true? Is the march toward economic interdependence, open markets and the weakening of national identity really as unstoppable as all that?
Two recent controversies the sale of port facilities to a company owned by the government of Dubai and the negotiation of a controversial nuclear cooperation deal with India underscore the tensions and contradictions between America’s commitment to economic globalization and its political priorities in a post-9/11 world.
In part, these controversies pitted desirable outcomes political stability and national security on the one hand; economic dynamism on the other against one another. In the ports case, the principles of globalization demanded that the Dubai company be allowed to take over the management of the six ports in question. But advocates of globalization never really took into account the possibility that even as nations become interdependent on one another, political difficulties may continue to separate them.
Globalization is a coherent theory for times of comparative peace and economic expansion like the 1990′s. It is less persuasive in times of conflict and fear like those we live in today. Although the presidential adviser Karl Rove has insisted that Democrats live in a pre-9/11 world and Republicans do not, the Bush administration’s defense of the ports deal seems like a classic case of pre-9/11 thinking. The administration argued that the deal had to go forward if Americans were to remain true to their commitment to open markets and the free movement of investment capital. But add the threat of terrorism and the specter of weapons of mass destruction to the equation, and suddenly the words “free movement” seem more like a threat than a harbinger of a more prosperous economic future.
Bush’s deal with India also illustrates the new and unexpected conundrums of globalization. The administration pledged to help India develop nuclear power plants despite that country’s refusal to sign the Nuclear Nonproliferation Treaty and its maintenance of an atomic-weapons arsenal. An implicit argument was this: Because India is so important a strategic partner and, prospectively at least, a major economic power, Washington is no longer in a position to insist, even rhetorically, that New Delhi abide by the established rules of the nuclear game.
U.S. officials made little effort to deny that they were making an exception in India’s case an exception they were at pains to point out they would never make for Iran. Rather, as Bush made clear in his joint press conference with the Indian prime minister, Manmohan Singh, the cementing and deepening of the U.S.-Indian alliance were simply too important to allow a mere international legal regime to get in the way. In a world where the economic balance of power is steadily tilting toward Asia, American concerns about runaway arms races are very likely to be overshadowed by American concerns about the need to prevent a destructive competition for scarce fossil-fuel resources with India and China. Better to accept an India that uses more civilian nuclear power (and offers U.S. companies the chance to benefit from the sector’s expansion) than to vainly chastise an India that is not going to abandon its nuclear arsenal anyway, whatever the effect on nonproliferation globally.
In retrospect, globalization’s most fervent partisans and critics were both nave to imagine that geopolitics would play second fiddle to geoeconomics. Obviously, the Dubai ports fiasco and the nuclear agreement with India posed very different policy challenges. In the case of Dubai ports, America’s traditional role of sponsor and advocate for globalization was politically unsustainable, much to the chagrin of the Bush administration. In the case of the agreement with India, the administration took the view that long-term global stability, including the stability of energy prices, required the abandonment of long-held international legal rules. This is certainly not your grandfather’s globalization.
The Achilles heel of that “inevitabilist” vision of globalization, so dominant in the 1990′s, was its rigid, almost Marxist-like economic determinism. Today’s globalization inseparable from political concerns, no longer able to overrule nationalist sentiments or national security objections, increasingly marked by the phenomenon of Asian companies buying European and North American assets is most likely to be far more controversial and far less orderly.
In all likelihood, Asians will complain about Western hypocrisy. After all, when globalization meant Western companies buying one another and acquiring assets in Asia, the U.S. and the countries of the European Union were unstinting advocates of globalization. Now it may seem that Western nations were never committed to economic interdependence globalization in the true sense of the word but simply to opening new markets for their own corporations and exporting political and legal norms coined in Washington or Brussels. But could it have been otherwise? As both the Indian nuclear agreement and the furor over the Dubai ports deal demonstrate, imagining that nations could not politicize international trade and economic issues or legal norms is as vain a hope as expecting them to act against their own self-interest in any other sphere of public life. Doubtless, some form of globalization is unavoidable. It will just not be the globalization we had been led to expect.
David Rieff is a contributing writer for the magazine.
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Saturday, March 25, 2006
U.S. and Europe Plan Sanctions Against Belarus
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An opposition supporter waved a greeting through a window Friday as his bus arrived at a detention center in Minsk, Belarus
March 25, 2006
U.S. and Europe Plan Sanctions Against Belarus
MINSK, Belarus, March 24 The United States and Europe said Friday that they would impose sanctions against President Aleksandr G. Lukashenko of Belarus and other top officials for cracking down on a peaceful protest over his re-election, which was widely seen as a sham.
The swift and nearly unanimous condemnations from Western nations widened their rift with Belarus and posed new challenges for their relations with Russia, which has stood behind Mr. Lukashenko.
The United States stopped short of cutting its ties with the Belarus government, but a senior State Department official said that travel and financial restrictions already in place on “fewer than a dozen” Belarussian government officials would probably be extended to more than 50, including Mr. Lukashenko.
The European Union announced similar moves.
The announcements came as Belarussian authorities were processing hundreds of demonstrators in a Soviet-era prison here in the capital, and holding what the opposition described as closed trials without legal representation or defense witnesses.
The opposition also said that since their members were arrested in a police sweep early Friday morning, many detainees had been beaten, denied the use of toilets, forced to stand for hours in subfreezing temperatures, and packed nearly by the score into small prison cells.
“It is a horrible violation of human rights and the law,” said Aleksandr Milinkevich, the principal challenger to Mr. Lukashenko in last Sunday’s presidential election. “They do not consider us to be people.”
Mr. Lukashenko made no immediate comment about the planned sanctions. But Belarus’s Foreign Ministry suggested the West was being hypocritical and he hinted at retaliation.
“If the United States and European Union countries respect the people of Belarus, they should respect their choice,” Andrei Popov, a ministry spokesman, said on national television. “The Republic of Belarus retains the right to take retaliatory measures.’
The threat seemed to expand on a remark earlier in the week by Mr. Lukashenko, who said Europe would hardly be able to restrict its trade with Belarus, a main transit route to the West for Russian gas and oil.
The United States said that it “condemns the actions of the Belarussian security services” in which “they forcibly seized and detained Belarussian citizens who were peacefully demonstrating against the fraudulent March 19 election results,” according to a State Department statement.
The sanctions are likely to irritate Russia, which endorsed the presidential election on Monday and made light of the violence on Friday.
As many as 1,000 people have been arrested in the past several days for participating in rallies or supporting the opposition, including for trying to give demonstrators food, according to Mr. Milinkevich and Aleksandr Kazulin, another presidential candidate. The United States echoed appeals by both candidates for Belarus to release the detainees immediately.
“The United States calls on authorities in Belarus to release without delay the hundreds of citizens who have been detained, not only in the past 24 hours, but in recent days and weeks, simply for expressing their political views,” said the White House press secretary, Scott McClellan.
Leaders of the European Union said they would add Mr. Lukashenko’s name to an existing visa ban against six Belarussian officials. The move puts him on the same blacklist as Zimbabwe’s president, Robert Mugabe, and Myanmar’s military leaders, all of whom have had their European assets frozen.
The Polish foreign minister, Stefan Meller, said the new restrictions, which will take effect around April 10, could involve more than a dozen people. “This is a fight of good against evil,” he said.
The officials subject to the sanctions would be forbidden to travel to the United States or Europe, or to fly on airlines belonging to any of those countries. Assets they hold in American or European banks will probably be frozen, though officials noted that the details had not yet been determined.
The administration hopes the threat of sanctions might change behavior in Belarus even before the new rules are put into place. Their goal, said the senior State Department official, who declined to be identified under department rules, is to “hold individuals accountable, to squeeze them” so that some might “peel off” to escape “the tightening noose.”
The crackdown creates a fresh strain on relations between the West and Russia, which has congratulated Mr. Lukashenko for his official victory, and said the election, seen in the West as a farce, signified “the development of democratic institutions and the strengthening of the foundations of civic society in Belarus.”
Russia, which holds the rotating chairmanship of the Group of Eight industrialized nations, showed no sign on Friday of rejecting its embrace of Mr. Lukashenko, who, according to official results, was re-elected to a third term on Sunday with 83 percent of the vote.
Foreign Minister Sergey V. Lavrov, at a news conference in Moscow, dismissed the protests as “illegal activities.” He accused the Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe, which monitored the elections, of having prejudged them and of instigating the demonstrations that followed.
“It has played an inflammatory role,” Mr. Lavrov said, according to a transcript provided by the Foreign Ministry. “To goad people into illegal activities is, I think, wrong.”
Christian Strohal, director of the organization’s human rights arm, responded in a statement that Mr. Lavrov’s statements showed “a deliberate disregard” for the facts.
The State Department played down the American disagreement with Russia. A spokesman, Adam Ereli, noted that Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice spoke with Mr. Lavrov by telephone on Friday and did not even bring up the issue of Belarus.
Nonetheless, the West’s actions may be seen as a challenge in Russia. “The United States and Europe have laid down markers that it will not accept fraudulent elections in Belarus,” said Celeste A. Wallander, director of the Russia and Eurasia program at the Center for Strategic and International Studies in Washington. The implication, she said, is that the West “will not accept fraud in Russian elections, either.”
But James. M. Goldgeier, a Russia expert at the Council on Foreign Relations, said that message may be undercut by the fact that Russia faced no consequences after similar disagreements over other elections in its former republics over the past two years.
In Minsk, the police crackdown hardly lessened the tension. For all its speed and efficiency, with hundreds of protesters being removed from their camp on October Square by the riot police in less than 25 minutes, the action seemed to have done little to break the opposition’s will.
Opposition members and relatives of those detained gathered outside the walls of the pretrial detention center and cheered every time a bus with detainees left the compound.
The unrest in recent days was the first sustained public dissent in the 12-year rule of a president often called Europe’s last dictator. Freedom of assembly and speech are almost nonexistent here, and the economy remains managed by the state.
Mr. Milinkevich called for wide sanctions against Belarussian officials, including television journalists who he said knowingly spread lies on state television. He said a rally planned for Saturday would go forward, no matter how few people showed up.
The event seems certain to present a fresh challenge to the government, if only on a small scale. Several demonstrators who have thus far eluded arrest said they would appear on October Square, against the government’s orders, in a continued show of civil disobedience.
One young man, who said he escaped from the crackdown early Friday by running from the police as they began seizing the demonstrators, stood on the square Friday afternoon, wearing a red-and-white button that read “For Freedom.”
The protester, who gave only his first name, Mikhail, said that he would be back with more demonstrators on Saturday, and that he expected he would be arrested.
Dan Bilefsky contributed reportingfrom Brussels for this article,Joel Brinkley from Washington and Steven Lee Myers from Moscow.
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Looking for a Few Good Sperm
Jessica Wynne for The New York Times
Daniela, a 38-year-old advertising executive, began by being inseminated with a known donor and is now trying anonymous ones.
March 19, 2006
Wanted: A Few Good Sperm
By JENNIFER EGAN
One day last October, Karyn, a 39-year-old executive, pulled her online dating profile off JDate and Match.com, two sites she had been using, along with an endless series of leads, tips and blind dates arranged by friends and colleagues, to search for a man she wanted to marry and raise a family with. At long last, after something like 100 dates in the past 10 years and several serious relationships, she had found the man she refers to, tongue only slightly in cheek, as “the one.” It all began last summer, when she broke off a relationship with a younger man who wasn’t ready for children and got serious about the idea of conceiving on her own. She gathered information about fertility doctors and sperm banks. “Then a childhood friend of mine was over,” she told me. “I pulled up the Web site of the only sperm bank that I know of that has adult photos. There happened to be one Jewish person. I pulled up the photo, and I looked at my friend, and I looked at his picture, and I said, ‘Oh, my God.’ I can’t say love at first sight, because, you know. But he was the one.”
Sperm donors, like online daters, answer myriad questions about heroes, hobbies and favorite things. Karyn read her donor’s profile and liked what she saw. “You can tell he comes from a warm family, some very educated,” she said. He had worked as a chef. He had “proven fertility,” meaning that at least one woman conceived using his sperm. Like all sperm donors, he was free from any sexually transmitted diseases or testable genetic disorders. “People in New York change sex partners quicker than the crosstown bus,” Karyn said. “I’d be a lot more concerned about my date next week.” But she especially liked the fact that he was an identity-release donor (also called an “open donor” or a “yes donor”) — a growing and extremely popular category of sperm donors who are willing to be contacted by any offspring who reach the age of 18.
The next morning, Karyn called the bank and spoke with a woman who worked there. “She said: ‘I have to be honest. He’s very popular, and I only have eight units in store right now. I’m not sure how much longer he might be in the program,”‘ Karyn told me. “Most women in New York impulse-buy Manolo Blahniks, and I said, ‘I’ll take the eight units.’ It was $3,100.” The price included six months of storage.
That hefty purchase, and the strong sense of connection she felt to the donor, galvanized Karyn: she made an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist and gave up alcohol and caffeine. At work, she took on a position of greater responsibility and longer hours — with a higher salary — to save money. She went on a wait list to buy more of the donor’s sperm when it became available. (All donor sperm must be quarantined for six months — the maximum incubation period for H.I.V. — so that the donor can be retested for the disease before it is released.) She told her parents and married sister what was going on, e-mailing the donor’s picture to her father with an invitation that he meet his son-in-law. She also printed the donor’s picture and kept it on the coffee table of her Manhattan studio apartment, where she sleeps in a Murphy bed. “I kind of glance at it as I pass,” she said of the picture. “It’s almost like when you date someone, and you keep looking at them, and you’re, like, Are they cute? But every time I pass, I’m, like, Oh, he’s really cute. It’s a comforting feeling.”
When I suggested that she must be a type who is prone to love at first sight, she just laughed. “With online dating, friends used to say: ‘What about him? What about him?’ I’d say: ‘Don’t like the nose. Ah, the eyes are a little buggy. He really likes to golf, and you know I don’t like golfing.’ There was always something. If I said this about everyone,” she concluded, “I would have married someone about 75 dates ago.”
Karyn said she hoped to join a population of women that everyone agrees is expanding, although by how much is hard to pin down because single mothers by choice (or choice mothers), as they are sometimes called, aren’t separated statistically from, say, babies born to unwed teenagers. Between 1999 and 2003 there was an almost 17 percent jump in the number of babies born to unmarried women between ages 30 and 44 in America, according to the National Center for Human Statistics, while the number born to unmarried women between 15 and 24 actually decreased by nearly 6 percent. Single Mothers by Choice, a 25-year-old support group, took in nearly double the number of new members in 2005 as it did 10 years ago, and its roughly 4,000 current members include women in Israel, Australia and Switzerland. The California Cryobank, the largest sperm bank in the country, owed a third of its business to single women in 2005, shipping them 9,600 vials of sperm, each good for one insemination.
As recently as the early 60′s, a “respectable” woman needed to be married just to have sex, not to speak of children; a child born out of wedlock was a source of deepest shame. Yet this radical social change feels strangely inevitable; nearly a third of American households are headed by women alone, many of whom not only raise their children on their own but also support them. All that remains is conception, and it is small wonder that women have begun chipping away at needing a man for that — especially after Sylvia Ann Hewlett’s controversial 2002 book, “Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children,” sounded alarms about declining fertility rates in women over 35. The Internet is also a factor; as well as holding meetings through local chapters around the country, Single Mothers by Choice hosts 11 Listservs, each addressing a different aspect of single motherhood. Women around the world pore over these lists, exchanging tips and information, selling one another leftover vials of sperm. (Once sperm has shipped, it can’t be returned to the bank.) Karyn found both her sperm bank and reproductive endocrinologist on these Listservs. Three-quarters of the members of Single Mothers by Choice choose to conceive with donor sperm, as lesbian couples have been doing for many years — adoption is costly, slow-moving and often biased against single people. Buying sperm over the Internet, on the other hand, is not much different from buying shoes.
In the 25 years since she founded Single Mothers by Choice after becoming pregnant by accident, Jane Mattes, now 62, has seen her group’s membership conceiving at younger ages (the median age among members is 36) and more often having second children. But the biggest change, Mattes says, is that the stigma attached to this form of single motherhood has largely faded. “People used to come into our meetings literally afraid to walk in,” she told me. “We don’t see that as much anymore. Everyone seems to know somebody who did it, which wasn’t the case even 10 years ago.”
Karyn, who asked that I use only her middle name, never imagined her life unfolding in this way, she told me over dinner at Caliente Cab, where we sat outdoors on an unseasonably warm November night. She has big blue-green eyes, shiny brown hair past her shoulders and an ironic appreciation of certain parallels between her life and Carrie Bradshaw’s. She has always known she wanted to marry and have kids. “I certainly never thought I would be the last one standing,” she said. “You feel a little bit resentful, like, Gosh, how did I get here? Blind date after blind date — why can’t it be easy for me like it was for other people? Right up until I ordered the sperm and made the doctor’s appointment, I was filled with anxiety. I felt sad, overwhelmed. Now I’m completely at peace with it.”
In the month since we had first talked, she had seen the reproductive endocrinologist and received a clean bill of health. Her hormone levels looked excellent. She planned to have her first insemination in December. Her decision had meshed seamlessly with what had been, until now, a conventional life; her parents were driving in from Long Island the next morning to take her for a medical test to check that her fallopian tubes were clear. Of her mother, Karyn said: “She used to call me once a week with a blind date. Now she’ll call once a week with a friend of a friend of a friend who has a daughter who became a single mother by choice.”
Karyn carried a wallet-size copy of the donor’s photo between her MetroCard and her work ID: a fair, sharp-featured young man in a crisp white shirt, his arms crossed. In the past month, she had had a couple of residual online dates, but now she seemed relieved to let that go. “People would say, ‘Oh, it’s just a date — don’t expect anything,”‘ she said, sipping her ice water. “‘Just go out and have a good time.’ But then you’d get four calls that night: How was it? What did you think? Did you like him? Why wouldn’t you go out with him again? There was so much pressure. It became a job.” Online dating has, if anything, made the search for a partner more callous and mystifying than ever; disappearing has become so easy. “I imagine one day when I get to heaven there will be a whole room full of missing socks and men,” Karyn once wrote to me in an e-mail message. “I hope the men will be wearing the socks.”
Now, as we sat outside, she said: “There’s nothing I’d like more in life than to have the whole picture and to share it all. To have the baby, to have the miniwagon, to have the husband, morning soccer games and P.T.A. — he’s out manning the grill, and I’m mixing the margaritas. But I think if I had to choose today between becoming a mom or finding the perfect man and I could only have one today, I would choose becoming a mom. And hope that I have my lifetime to find the other.”
Discussion of single motherhood nearly always leads to talk of divorce. More than a third of American marriages end that way; often there are children involved, and often the mothers end up caring for those children mostly on their own, saddled with ex-spouses, custody wrangles and nagging in-laws. Considered this way, single motherhood would seem to have a clean, almost thrilling logic — more than a third of the time, these women will have circumvented a lot of pain and unpleasantness and cut straight to being mothers on their own.
Last October, when I visited the Manhattan apartment of Daniela, a 38-year-old German advertising executive who had recently been inseminated with the sperm of a male friend, her guest room was peppered with toys belonging to the young son of a visiting friend who had broken up with the boy’s father by the time he was born. “They got a child out of love, and the parents couldn’t deal with one another,” Daniela, who asked that I use only her first name, told me. “And now she lives in Germany; he lives here. He doesn’t pay any money if he doesn’t see the child. So there’s a constant battle over it. The child is torn in between. She has to deal with the father. I won’t have to deal with the father.”
Daniela’s apartment is neat and spare, with hardwood floors, a basket of colorful slippers by the front door for guests and an entire wall devoted to pictures of her family in Germany. (She also has a married sister with three children who lives in New Jersey.) A 6-foot-1 blonde who speaks with disarming frankness, she came to America 10 years ago with the man she would later marry, only to find that he didn’t want children. After their divorce, she was engaged to another man who kept postponing their wedding — she still has a set of “Save the Date” cards in her closet. Having always wanted passionately to be a mother, she decided to use a “known donor,” a close gay friend, also German, to help her conceive. Known donors have some big advantages over anonymous ones: they can contribute fresh sperm, which is more motile and long-lived than frozen. (As much as half of a man’s sperm dies during freezing, which is why sperm-bank donors need to have extremely high sperm counts.) With a known donor, there is a theoretically endless supply, and it’s free, whereas “washed” sperm, cleared of debris for an intrauterine insemination, or IUI (recommended for women using frozen sperm because the sperm is placed directly into the uterus and doesn’t have to swim past the cervix), generally costs between $200 and $400 a vial, plus $100 for shipping, not to mention another $100 if the donor is “open.”
The big disadvantage to using a known donor, as Daniela learned when she posted a query on a Listserv of Single Mothers by Choice (she had been avoiding the meetings, finding them too full of “personalities”), is that in most states the donor will always have full parental rights, regardless of whatever deal he and the mother might have worked out in advance. This didn’t worry Daniela; she wanted her child to have a father, even a partial one. “His parents are ecstatic about it,” she said of her donor friend as we sat drinking tea at her dining table. “He’s smart; he has a great character; he’s a friendly person. I said, You don’t have to pay for the child, but if you want to have it with you or you want to participate, you’re more than welcome.”
An unforeseen hitch emerged at the reproductive endocrinologist’s office, where Daniela and her friend were posing as an engaged couple to avoid having to quarantine his sperm, as required by federal and New York State regulations before a woman can be inseminated by a man who isn’t already her sexual partner: he had an extremely low sperm count. The doctor “spun” the sperm to concentrate it before placing it in Daniela’s uterus, and she and her friend had already tried three inseminations, the last one a few days before my visit. She was now in the middle of what is known in fertility parlance as the “two-week wait” to find out if she was pregnant. She wasn’t optimistic. In vitro fertilization might be more successful, but she has a stressful job and was leery of the intense hormone treatments.
Daniela also found anonymous donors deeply unappealing. “These people don’t do that because they want to help the population, let’s face it,” she said. “They’re doing it for the money and because they maybe want to populate the earth. A) you’re going to have a lot of siblings out there. B) I question what kind of personality these people can be. You read characteristics like height and ethnicity, what kind of education — it’s the information that you don’t get that is much more important. I’m thinking about happiness or moods, these kind of things.”
Sperm banks do try to address the amorphous question of character; many include psychological studies of donors as well as “staff impressions.” Some offer audiotaped interviews in addition to the lengthy written questionnaires, but Daniela said she felt that these materials would only confuse her. She did have a few ideas of what she might look for: she wanted a man of her same blood type, O positive. Because she herself is so tall, she preferred a medium height. (Short donors don’t exist; because most women seek out tall ones, most banks don’t accept men under 5-foot-9.) She was also attracted by the idea of a donor of another race. “I believe in multiculturalism,” she said. “I would probably choose somebody with a darker skin color so I don’t have to slather sunblock on my kid all the time. I want it to be a healthy mix. You know how mixed dogs are always the nicest and the friendliest and the healthiest? If you get a clear race, they have all the problems. Mutts are always the friendly ones, the intelligent ones, the ones who don’t bark and have a good character. I want a mutt.” Her African-American friends questioned this strategy, suggesting that her child’s life would be harder if he or she was perceived as nonwhite, but Daniela said: “If that’s what I believe, I have to go by that. And it might help the world also if more people are doing it that way.”
While many single mothers look for donors whose features and coloring resemble their own, Daniela’s attraction to a diverse gene pool isn’t so unusual. A 40-year-old African-American woman I spoke with wanted a Latino donor so that her child would have lighter skin and nonkinky hair. “I’m the African-American,” she told me. “The child will get that from me.” Q., a 43-year-old health-care manager who attended a yeshiva from kindergarten through high school (she asked that I use only one of her initials), first sought out a Jewish donor. “Everybody either had glasses, they’re balding or their grandmother was diabetic and had heart disease — typical Jewish population,” she told me. Her solution: a 6-foot-2 Catholic, German stock on both sides, with curly blond hair and blue eyes. “He really was the typical Aryan perfect human being,” she said, laughing. “He was a bodybuilder. He played the guitar and the drums, and he sang. He was captain of the rugby team in college. When I had the in vitro process done, the embryologist said: ‘This is some of the best sperm I’ve ever seen. It just about jumped out of the test tubes.”‘ Q.’s golden-curled, blue-eyed daughter has just turned 2.
For the moment, though, Daniela was still hoping that this recent insemination with her friend’s sperm would take. She dreamed of a little girl. And like virtually all of the prospective single mothers I spoke with, she had every intention of finding a mate after the child was born. “Taking this whole ‘I have to find the father of my child’ out of the equation might make it a lot more relaxed and easier,” she said. “The guys are smelling it, and they run.” And even if the guy held still, he might not be the one you’d pick — or even consider — if you weren’t desperate for kids. “I see so many women who are in unhealthy relationships, where they really just try to get married and then have a child and break it off,” Daniela said. “If they would consider this as an option, I think they would be happier, and the children would be happier.”
I went to a special meeting of the New York chapter of Single Mothers by Choice a few weeks later, in mid-November. It had been arranged for members willing to have a reporter present. We met on the Upper West Side, in a long rectangular rented room whose high ceiling magnified the yelps and stomping feet of toddlers who had come with their mothers. Women contemplating single motherhood or trying to get pregnant (“thinkers” and “tryers”) arrived an hour later, Karyn among them. It was her third meeting.
The mothers’ discussion was mostly practical: a pretty blonde in a black T-shirt that read “Sweet and Toxic” had noticed a sign in her health club forbidding children over the age of 3 to change in opposite-sex bathrooms: what would she do in a year when her son was 3? She also wondered about teaching him how to urinate into the toilet bowl; a friend had suggested throwing Cheerios in for him to aim at. (A mother of a 4-year-old boy discouraged this practice; it might tempt him to throw other things into the toilet.) A woman trying to arrange a domestic adoption asked about nannies versus day care.
When the general meeting began, each woman in the largely white group introduced herself. Two were pregnant; another had twins; one had adopted a daughter from Haiti. One had not been able to conceive and planned to become a foster parent. Anyone walking into the room would have assumed that the women with kids had husbands or partners at home, but in three hours of discussion, the only men who were mentioned were donors, anonymous and known. These women’s independence of male partners in their family-making often brings a corollary reliance on one another — for sympathy and information, for companionship (Single Mothers by Choice sponsors vacations every year for single mothers and their kids) and the chance to show their children other families like their own. At times, the relationships can become even more enmeshed: one mother I spoke with, whose twin sons were conceived using both donor eggs and donor sperm, gave her leftover frozen embryos to a friend who was having fertility problems. The friend is now pregnant with a child who will be this mother’s own sons’ full sibling.
While nearly every woman I spoke with had her own history of romantic near misses and crushing disappointments, most also saw advantages to proceeding on their own. “This baby will be my baby, only my baby,” Karyn told me that night at Caliente Cab. “The thing I’m afraid of is that after doing this, I might not want to get married. It seems like a lot of hard work, a lot of compromise. Someone ends up short, and usually it’s the mom, because by the time you get to the child and your husband and the dog, there’s not much left.”
After introductions, the group broke into smaller discussion groups, mothers and pregnant women at one end of the room, thinkers and tryers at the other. Among the thinkers, two women were holding off on making a decision while they looked for work — something I heard a lot. Such delays put these women in a bind, though; each month is precious in terms of fertility. “I can’t stress enough how much money worries me in this process,” I was told by a 35-year-old Canadian woman who will soon begin trying to get pregnant. “I’m alone; there’s no safety net. If you picture it like the scales, on the one side there’s my money and on the other are the years left to have children.”
Karyn had moved from the thinkers group into the tryers since her last meeting. She had brought a bag of pretzels, which she shared with the others, most of whom were slightly older than she — slightly in real terms, but through the telescopic lens of a woman’s fertility, the difference was vast. “Trying to get pregnant at age 41 is nothing like trying to get pregnant at age 38,” a 41-year-old grimly remarked when Karyn asked if she had begun trying. “My gynecologist wouldn’t even do any of the tests. She said because of my age, just go to deal with infertility, don’t waste any time.”
Because many single women have waited years, hoping the right man would come along, and because the majority use sperm that has been frozen, they are disproportionately at risk for fertility problems when they finally decide to have children. Many report being stunned that their fertility was so fragile. “I thought I could have kids until my period ended, and menopause is 50, right?” said another woman I met at a Single Mothers by Choice meeting in Washington, who began trying to conceive at 44. The sense of not having been informed, of being too late, is so often expressed by would-be single mothers in their 40′s that it has doubtless spurred some younger women in the Single Mothers by Choice network to act more precipitously. (I interviewed two women who conceived while still in their 20′s.) Still, the near-miraculous success of some older mothers can give hope — often unrealistic — to those still fighting the odds. Most doctors refused to take the 44-year-old Washington woman except as an egg-donor patient, but one did — and she became pregnant with a girl who is now almost 4. Another woman in the D.C. group went through 16 attempts and a miscarriage, using both IUI and I.V.F., before her son was finally born.
At 39, Karyn was still on the right side of this equation, but just barely. “I’m waiting for my next period to start the beginning of December,” she told the older woman. “I’m about to start trying, either before or after Christmas Day.”
But it didn’t work out like that. A few days before Christmas, after receiving a string of e-mail messages from Karyn chronicling her march toward insemination, I found one with the subject line, “Do you believe in signs?” She had written: “Sit down, ready for this one? I arrived home from work again at 11:30 last night to be greeted by my doormen telling me how very sorry they were — a steam pipe explosion blew right through my apartment with a flood.. . .My apartment is destroyed and needs to be gutted.. . .I am taking all of the events as a sign that this is not the right month to get pregnant.”
She planned to wait three months, at which point she would be weeks away from her 40th birthday.
In November, I met Daniela in her Midtown office, which has a modern industrial design and faces east into what that afternoon was a bleak gray day. As she had feared, the last insemination with her donor friend hadn’t worked, and she had resigned herself to the idea of using an anonymous donor instead. She had even found two that appealed to her, both from a small Manhattan sperm bank where she would save money on shipping by picking up the samples herself and carrying them to her doctor’s office. As I sat across her desk, she pulled up the donors’ descriptions on her computer. One was Indian: “He’s got black straight hair,” she told me, “brown eyes, he’s six feet but he only weighs 150. Which is good. If I have a girl, she wants to be skinny, and if she can eat what she wants, that’s perfect. You don’t have to get in fights about food.” The Indian donor’s complexion was described as “medium/dark,” and he had proven fertility. He had a master’s degree in business. He was bilingual, Hindu, single and liked traveling and music. His family-health history looked good.
The second donor was a mix of Chinese, Peruvian and Italian. He was olive-skinned, 5-foot-9 and weighed 169. “Thick hair, which is also nice,” she said, “because if I happen to get a son, I don’t like bald guys. He’s Catholic, which I would obviously like, because I am. He has a very interesting book collection: he likes Hesse, Henry James, Lorca. Excellent vision. His parents are pretty boring professionally, so I was a little concerned about that. But when they started their businesses, they probably didn’t have all that many chances, the father being Peruvian and the mother being Chinese-Italian.” She especially liked the fact that he was a full-time student in theater. “He has creative aspirations,” she said. “Those things are hereditary.”
Mostly from a sense of obligation, she Googled “sperm” and began scanning lists of donors at other banks, using O-positive blood type as her first criterion. “This one is a Hispanic fair,” she mused. “But Hispanics can still be very, very fair. Then we have a Dominican-Honduran, black straight hair, olive skin — he is really too heavy, 220, are you kidding me? Now here we have a Caucasian. Research assistant in psychology — no. You don’t study that if you haven’t touched upon it somewhere.”
At the California Cryobank site, the donors numbered in the hundreds. “All those Germans,” Daniela murmured, scrolling down. “How am I proving my healthiness if I do the same race again? Black African, they do have three of them. Look how tall they are. And see how heavy the two O-positives are?”
Eventually she happened on a search engine that listed donors from all of the banks without revealing which bank they were from without payment. Visibly weary as she scanned the list, she reflected: “I still like my Chinese-Peruvian-Italian. He seems a little bit more special somehow. From this little bank . . . it’s like a little country. There he is. There he is! Chinese-Peruvian-Italian, full-time student!”
The sheer familiarity of the Chinese-Peruvian-Italian made him leap from the haze of anonymous data like an old friend. And that feeling counts for a lot. It’s no wonder that a number of single mothers I spoke with used the phrase “I felt a connection” in explaining their choice of donors. Despite the obvious parallels between shopping for sperm and dating online, there is finally no comparing them — a sperm donor is providing half the DNA for your child, and whether or not you choose to think about it, he’ll be there forever in the child’s tastes and choices and personality. No one wants a decision like that to feel arbitrary.
Daniela had other news: she had met a man she was interested in. It happened during a business trip the week before; he was meeting friends in the bar of her hotel. “He was so good with his friend’s kid,” she said. “I’m, like, ‘Oh, you must have three kids.’ He said, ‘No, just nieces and nephews.”‘ They struck up a conversation, and she ended up joining his group for dinner. She was honest with him about her plans to get pregnant, but the news may not have sunk in; he had been calling ever since, eager to see her again. He was in his 40′s, African-American, and had his own business. “It’s nice to know that just because you have these plans, you’re not unattractive or undesirable,” Daniela said. She felt more at ease with this man than she had with other men in recent years and attributed this to her decision to move ahead with motherhood. “It was a completely different feeling,” she said. “It empowers one, because you’re not relying on somebody else. You don’t have to bring up the big life conversations.”
While many women, like Karyn, relish their emancipation from the grind of dating and pursue motherhood with a single mind, others are intrigued by what romance could mean, absent the imperative of finding a father for their children. One woman, a 40-year-old graduate student in biology in the Midwest, told me shortly after her first insemination: “One of the things that was so powerful about deciding to have a baby on my own was saying, I’m taking charge of this piece of it; I’m not going to wait around for a guy to give it to me. And my feelings about what I want from men right now are really changed. I don’t actually want a big relationship. Now I want occasional companionship and sex.”
On a recent date, between inseminations, this woman noticed the difference. “It was one of these dates where the guy’s just telling you his sad story and his complicated relationship with his mother. In my previous dating life, I would have been, like, I’m not going to get seriously involved with a man like this. I’m going to get rid of him. This time I was, like, I think he’s hot, so if I just keep listening, maybe eventually we’ll have sex. And we had great sex. It was really hot.” At one point, she had sex with two different men in the same weekend (both times using condoms) not long after an insemination. Observing her own behavior, she said: “Maybe in six months or a year I’ll have more insight about it, but something radical is going on in my brain about my relationships with men. O.K., so I’m not going to keep trying to have this picket-fence-y life. I’m waving the white flag. And now I have permission to directly pursue what I want. It’s a very curious and ambivalent liberation, because I would rather not be single. It’s not my first choice.”
Daniela told me that regardless of what happened with the new man, she was certain of one thing: she would go ahead with her plan to inseminate. “I’ve done the mistake of putting this on hold several times, and I cannot afford it,” she said. We looked together at her November calendar on her office computer; sandwiched among coming trips and meetings were her expected days of menstruation and ovulation, noted in German. She planned to inseminate in December, so she would have to pick the donor by the end of the month. Meanwhile, the new man had proposed coming to New York in mid-December, which happened to be the time when she thought she would be ovulating. Daniela said she wouldn’t feel comfortable using protection with him while she was going to a doctor’s office to be inseminated. “That would be weird,” she said. “But leave it up to destiny? That’s a possibility, I think.”
I was astonished. Had she thought through the implications of having this man’s child? I asked. What if the relationship didn’t last? What if she turned out not to like him at all? Daniela countered that his parents were happily married, and he had good relationships with his siblings, but what I heard in her voice was confusion. Then I recalled something she had told me in a previous conversation: “I have this big fear in my life that I never will be pregnant. You see these pregnant women on the street, and you’re, like, How does it feel? What’s going on in your mind, in your heart? I want to feel it!” Remembering this helped me to understand: it is hard to want something so badly and to try to prevent it.
As it turned out, he didn’t visit in December. Daniela didn’t inseminate, either. Her Indian donor was out of stock, and the Chinese-Peruvian-Italian’s sperm was in quarantine until early January. Meanwhile, she had learned that her health insurance had a $2,000 annual cap on fertility treatments that she had already exhausted on the inseminations with her gay friend.
So it was early January when I finally met Daniela at 8 a.m. outside the Empire State Building, where her sperm bank is located, to pick up two vials of sperm from her Chinese-Peruvian-Italian donor. She had hardly slept the night before from excitement, she told me. At the bank, a nondescript lab, Daniela paid $450 and was given an 18-pound white canister with an orange “Biohazard” sticker on it. She had been there once before; her donor friend had had to go out of town and left frozen sperm for her. “You walk out on the street, and you’ve got the container in your hand,” she said, “and then there’s all these containers on two legs.”
One such two-legged container was in the elevator when we got on: a workman surrounded by tools. “You’re unbuttoned, you know that,” Daniela said, looking at his fly.
The guy’s fair skin turned crimson, and he buttoned up, grinning but avoiding her eyes.
She explained, “I think it’s better that I tell you now, so you don’t go through the day like that.”
“If they notice, they shouldn’t be looking there,” he said in a strong Irish accent, smiling right at her now.
Daniela smiled back. “Are you Irish?” she asked. “I’m German. That’s why I don’t understand a word you’re saying.”
This was flirtation, right? I was still asking myself that question as we left the elevator, but I wasn’t sure: what does flirtation even mean in the context of a woman hauling a canister of sperm to a doctor’s office so he can inseminate her? Or, to put it another way, what’s the point?
“He was a sweet kid,” Daniela said briskly as we left the building and stepped onto the dusty, bacon-smelling street.
At the doctor’s office, we repaired to an examining room, where Daniela’s doctor, an avuncular man in wire-rimmed glasses, took a sonogram of her ovaries and uterus. “The lining looks very good,” he said. “It’s the proper time to do this. We’ll thaw out the specimen.”
In a different room, he removed a “straw” of frozen sperm from the canister of nitrogen and placed it into a tub of warm water to thaw. Most sperm banks use plastic vials nowadays, but this particular bank had stuck with an old system. The doctor left the room while the sperm was thawing, and Daniela filled me in on the new man. They hadn’t seen each other since that first meeting two months ago; trips had been arranged and fallen through, often because he was short of money. Still, they were in close touch. Three days ago, she told him on the phone about the planned insemination, and his response was wary. “How do you react to dating a person that would be pregnant with somebody else?” Daniela said, paraphrasing his reaction. “Just like I am feeling completely weird carrying that bucket, it must be the same feeling for him when he meets a person like me.” Yet she was hopeful that things might still work out. “If we’re going to be great together,” she said, laughing, “we’re going to be great together with that Eurasian child.”
The doctor came back and placed the straw of clear, yellowish sperm in a slim glass cylinder and removed a drop to look at under a microscope. “We have very good motility,” he said. “This is a good specimen.”
Daniela looked, too. “I see lots of them,” she said, excited. “Last time I had to look for four.”
The doctor left so Daniela could change into a gown and lie down. When he came back, he drew the yellow liquid into an oversize syringe that tapered into a skinny tube. It is hard to say what Daniela’s chances of becoming pregnant would be; statistics on the success rates of IUI using frozen sperm suggest that they are between 8 and 15 percent in a given cycle. Daniela would return the next morning for a second insemination; many doctors believe that consecutive inseminations increase the chances.
Wearing a small miner’s light around his head, the doctor went to work. He was done in three minutes. Daniela lifted her hand, fingers crossed, as he left the room.
A week into Daniela’s two-week wait, I heard from Karyn again. She had been living in a friend’s apartment for weeks while the various insurance companies haggled about how much to pay out for the damage to her apartment. Her computer had been destroyed, along with many of her possessions, including her file of medical records and donor materials. “That’s one thing that made me cry,” she said. “Just to see all the papers with his information and history and his picture. . .seeing it all soaked.”
She had resigned from her job — the brutal hours were wearing her down — and said she believed she had other good prospects. Meanwhile, she had decided to go ahead with her insemination plan. The big day came two weeks later, in late January. Her mother went with her, and Karyn called me a few hours after, elated. The next day I received an e-mail message whose subject line read, “I think I already feel a kick.”
Over thanksgiving vacation, I took the train to Darien, Conn., to meet Shelby Siems and her 2-year-old son, Christopher, who had driven down from their home in Marblehead, Mass. Shelby, 44, grew up in Darien and had come to visit cousins and friends over the holiday weekend. She is part of a rising number of single mothers who are having second children; when we met in Connecticut, she was four months pregnant with a second son by the same donor who sired her first. She and Christopher picked me up at the train station, and we drove to a nearby pizza restaurant that was still quiet at that midmorning hour. Shelby is fair, with long blond hair and pale blue eyes that are prone to tears. Christopher is also pale, a watchful, intelligent child with wispy reddish hair. At lunch, he said “please” and “thank you” and rolled a small green train engine over the laminated tabletop while Shelby and I talked. For a 2-year-old he was remarkably patient, but occasionally he cried, “Mama, Mama, I want to hold you.”
“I’m right here,” Shelby said.
Once a journalist for The Christian Science Monitor, Shelby was finishing up an M.F.A. in nonfiction. Her thesis project is a book about her experience as a single mother, an experience that has been more grueling than Daniela’s or Karyn’s will most likely be because Shelby has no immediate family; she was an only child of older parents who died by the time she reached her early 30′s. She inherited money that has allowed her to go back to school and to support Christopher, but she is alone in the world. In Christopher’s first weeks of life, there were periods of many days when they saw no one but each other.
Shelby does have a boyfriend: a 52-year-old bachelor who works at a pharmaceutical company, whom she met at a party when Christopher was a month old. “He’s been a great person in my life and Christopher’s life, but he’s not going to marry me,” she explained over the phone when we first spoke. “Some people just don’t want to do that, and he’s one of those people.”
The fact that Shelby is in a relationship at all is unusual; the majority of mothers I spoke with — even those with older children — had remained single. Many expressed a willingness to date if the opportunity were to come along, but they work long hours to support their kids, and when they’re not working, they want to see them. For all the comparisons between being divorced with children and having them alone, there are critical differences: an ex-husband who spends any time at all with his kids frees up pockets of time when a woman could potentially see someone new. Even minimal child-support payments would reduce the financial burden on her, and substantial ones could allow her to work less. Perhaps most important, a child with only one parent is immensely dependent on that parent, and the mother of such a child tends to feel her responsibility acutely. It can be painful — and expensive — to leave your child with a baby sitter after a whole day away, just to go out on a date.
Despite her age — Shelby was 42 when Christopher was born — she was determined that her son have a sibling. “He has even less of a family than I do, because he doesn’t have his whole father’s side of the family,” she told me. “The only person he has is me.” She wanted to use the same donor again and put the matter to her boyfriend, who made it clear that he wasn’t interested in fatherhood. She began stocking up on the donor’s sperm (most banks keep a reserve supply of each donor’s sperm for women who want second children) when Christopher was still an infant. “I want my son to have a full sibling,” she said. “I want to feel like he has one person in the world who is a complete blood relative after I’m gone. I did not want my son to feel deprived, that the other sibling had a father and he didn’t.” To be sure that there was no chance the child would be his, Shelby and her boyfriend were celibate for the year it took her to conceive, which she finally did at 43, after eight tries, using I.V.F.
The fact that a child born of an anonymous donor knows only half his biological family concerns single mothers with more robust families than Shelby’s, too. The Donor Sibling Registry, a Web site where families can register children conceived by donor insemination in hopes of being matched with half-siblings or even the donor himself, has proved a boon for many single mothers. The site’s founder, Wendy Kramer, estimates that the majority of the 7,400 registered members are single. Recent publicity has prompted a jump in the registry’s membership and matches — more than 1,500 have been made so far, not just among half-siblings but also among sperm (and egg) donors, 320 of whom are registered on the site, and their progeny.
Q., the former yeshiva student who ended up choosing the 6-foot-2 German rugby player as her donor, developed severe hypertension during her pregnancy and had to be hospitalized several times. Her symptoms lingered even after her daughter was born, and she became preoccupied with what would happen to the baby girl if she were to die. Her brother and a sister are selfish, she says, and her mother is elderly. Last fall, she went to the Donor Sibling Registry and got a shock: the Aryan bodybuilder with the leaping sperm has fathered 21 children (and counting — he is still an active donor), including four sets of twins. These children are all 3 and under, and their families — four lesbian couples, three heterosexual couples and six single mothers — have formed their own Listserv, where photographs of the children (all blond, with a strong familial resemblance) are posted, and daily e-mail messages are exchanged about birthdays, toilet training and the like. They are planning a group vacation in 2007. “I was elated,” Q. told me. “To quote the granny on ‘The Beverly Hillbillies,’ I wanted her to have kin. Now here’s kin that look like her; that’re in her same age range. I even thought that if I get to know somebody really well from this group, maybe I would pick one of these other mothers, if they would be interested, to be designated as a guardian for my daughter.”
Q. is one of several people in the group with a keen desire to meet her donor one day. And they aren’t sitting idle; one woman had magnified his baby picture, in which the donor is blowing out candles on his birthday cake, to the point at which a first name may be legible. Another mother has a hunch about the donor’s provenance based on the way he pronounced certain words on his audiotape. At the Washington Single Mothers by Choice meeting, I met a woman who had easily identified the donor for her 9-month-old son using Google. “The person left specific enough information for me to just type in those words and click,” she told the group. “But what to do with that information? I’m bound to keep him anonymous as per the contract, but what about when my son says: ‘What do you know? Tell me anything about my dad.”‘
When we’d finished our pizza and salad, Shelby drove to a playground. The brightly colored equipment was empty in the frigid cold, but Christopher bounced in his car seat. “Slides!” he cried.
He bounded out of the car, refusing mittens, and commenced to climb, panting plumes of steam. Whenever he was in earshot, Shelby spelled out the word D-A-D; lately Christopher had become fixated on the idea of a daddy. “He goes to a day care, and he’s the only child of a single mother in his class. I think they spend a lot of time talking about Daddy,” she told me. Christopher had referred to a neighbor as Daddy, as well as Regis Philbin. “Interestingly, he doesn’t call my boyfriend Daddy; he’s ‘mamma’s friend.’ The other day, I said, ‘Someone special’s coming to see you today — do you know who it is?’ I expected him to say [her boyfriend's name]. But he said, ‘Daddy?”‘ The single mothers by choice I spoke with generally hold that the story of their children’s origins should be told to them from the time of birth, long before the child is old enough to understand it. But Shelby feels that at 2, Christopher is too young to hear that he doesn’t have a father.
Shelby’s son is part of a population of kids that is only now beginning to be studied, though a 1992 survey of teenagers raised by single mothers found that they experienced markedly fewer adolescent problems than children of divorce. A continuing study of a group of children in England, now 2, who were conceived by single women using donor sperm concludes that so far they are healthy and well adjusted. But the long-term questions of how these children will fare or about the different experiences of girls and boys have yet to be answered.
As we watched Christopher tear around the playground, Shelby reflected on her occasional frustration at the distance her boyfriend maintains from her family. Over Christmas, he would be leaving town for two weeks to visit his family, and Shelby and Christopher would spend the holiday alone. They had no plans, and Shelby felt pressure to make Christmas festive for her son. “On the other hand,” she said of her boyfriend, “he’s still attracted to me physically through all my body changes, and he and Christopher are so fond of each other. They have a very sweet relationship.” Her boyfriend usually visits on Sunday mornings. “A huge wave of relief comes over me,” Shelby said. She can relax or do dishes or take a nap. “I feel, like, Wow, this must be what it’s like to have a husband every day of the year. I can do my own thing, but I love to just stand across the room and watch them together.”
When I next spoke to Daniela, in late January at the end of her two-week wait, she was on a business trip. Her voice sounded weak and tired. She had just gotten her period. And the new man had finally made it to New York, but the visit had been a disaster. “I guess it has to do with the fact that I’m going through this,” she said. “You kind of protect yourself. He was saying he was one of these what he calls old-fashioned guys: if his wife is going to have a child, he’s going to be in the waiting room until the child is delivered and washed. I’m, like, wait a second. Don’t you think you should go through this together? He said, ‘No, I’m going to faint, and I’m going to throw up.”‘
His visit to New York was supposedly a business trip, but in the end he didn’t have much to do. “He’s not cut out to be a provider, to be a protector or to be a patriarch,” Daniela said. “He can’t be there when the child is born; he can’t make the living for the family. Maybe what bothered him is that he couldn’t offer what he would like to offer. So he made it, like, taste bad.”
I had never heard her so low. “Everything is so hard, and it’s so degrading,” she said. “You always think that you’d go through this with somebody that would support you. You don’t think about having all the problems, let alone doing it on your own.”
I was humbled by the grueling ordeals many women had undergone on their paths to single motherhood: years of trying to conceive, hormone treatments, hospitalizations, miscarriages, untold thousands of dollars spent — all without a partner to buffer the strains and disappointments. And being a single parent is no easier: whether it’s a matter of trying to get a photo taken of you with your child or finding a way to shower without worrying that you won’t hear your baby cry or accommodating a difficult work schedule, being a single parent can require compromises and jury-rigging that might awe a person with a partner. A longtime employee of New Jersey Transit spent a year working the 5 a.m. to 1 p.m. shift, which meant waking her daughter at 4 and walking her across the street in her pajamas to a neighbor’s house. Her daughter slept on the sofa until the neighbor woke her and took her to school with her own children. “It’s probably harder than you ever think it’s going to be,” this mother told me. After a moment, she added, “My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.” It is a measure of how deep the pull toward motherhood can be that thousands of women from many different walks of life are making this choice, using reproductive and communications technology in ways that not only break with tradition but also make it seem obsolete.
Daniela did another insemination in early February, this time mingling the sperm of her Chinese-Peruvian-Italian with another donor from the same bank who had proven fertility. It didn’t work. Neither did Karyn’s first try. When I spoke with her early this month, she was preparing to move back into her apartment, whose renovation would soon be complete. There was still one last chance to become pregnant before her 40th birthday in April. “In a perfect world, I’ll get pregnant this cycle,” she told me. “I’ll start working the first week of April before I’m officially really pregnant, and we’ll live happily ever after.”
When I spoke to Daniela a couple of weeks ago, she had recovered from her disappointments and had just been inseminated again with the sperm of a French-English-German-Scandinavian attorney with proven fertility. She had also struck up an e-mail correspondence with another woman on the Single Mothers by Choice Listserv. They had met for a drink and hit it off, and Daniela planned to go with her to a Single Mothers by Choice meeting. She seemed reconciled to the fact that it might take a while to become pregnant, but she was no less determined. Her fellow would-be single mother is 36, Daniela told me, but her situation is complicated by a boyfriend who has children.
“Why don’t you tell him you’ve got some kids, too?” Daniela recalled suggesting to her friend. “They’re just not born yet.”
Jennifer Egan last wrote for the magazine about online dating. Her new novel, “The Keep,” will be published in August.
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America at War
This web page is a tribute and thank you to those men and women who serve in the military, especially those who were injured or paid the ulimate price for our freedom, and to their families.
America owes them a debt which can never be repaid.
The entire nation thanks you.
The average age of the Infantryman is 19 years. He is a short haired, tight-muscled kid who, under normal circumstances is considered by society as half man, half boy. Not yet dry behind the ears, not old enough to buy a beer, but old enough to die for his country. He never really cared much for work and he would rather wax his own car than wash his father’s; but he has never collected unemployment either. He’s a recent High School graduate; he was probably an average student, pursued some form of sport activities, drives a ten year old jalopy, and has a steady girlfriend that either broke up with him when he left, or swears to be waiting when he returns from half a world away. He listens to rock and roll or hip-hop or rap or jazz or swing and 155mm Howitzers.
He is 10 or 15 pounds lighter now than when he was at home because he is working or fighting from before dawn to well after dusk. He has trouble spelling, thus letter writing is a pain for him, but he can field strip a rifle in 30 seconds and reassemble it in less time in the dark.
He can recite to you the nomenclature of a machine gun or grenade launcher and use either one effectively if he must. He digs foxholes and latrines and can apply first aid like a professional. He can march until he is told to stop or stop until he is told to march. He obeys orders instantly and without hesitation, but he is not without spirit or individual dignity.
He is self-sufficient. He has two sets of fatigues: he washes one and wears the other. He keeps his canteens full and his feet dry. He sometimes forgets to brush his teeth, but never to clean his rifle. He can cook his own meals, mend his own clothes, and fix his own hurts. If you’re thirsty, he’ll share his water with you; if you are hungry, his food. He’ll even split his ammunition with you in the midst of battle when you run low.
He has learned to use his hands like weapons and weapons like they were his hands. He can save your life – or take it, because that is his job. He will often do twice the work of a civilian, draw half the pay and still find ironic humor in it all. He has seen more suffering and death than he should have in his short lifetime. He has stood atop mountains of dead bodies, and helped to create them. He has wept in public and in private, for friends who have fallen in combat and is unashamed.
He feels every note of the National Anthem vibrate through his body while at rigid attention, while tempering the burning desire to ‘square-away’ those around him who haven’t bothered to stand, remove their hat, or even stop talking. In an odd twist, day in and day out, far from home, he defends their right to be disrespectful.
Just as did his Father, Grandfather, and Great-grandfather, he is paying the price for our freedom.
He has asked nothing in return, except our friendship and understanding. Remember him, always, for he has earned our respect and admiration with his blood.
Beardless or not, he is not a boy.
He is the American Fighting Man that has kept this country free for over 200 years.
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Meals That Moms Can Almost Call Their Own
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Jeannette Balantic, center, and Madeline Craig, of Floral Park, on Long Island, put together enchiladas at Super Suppers in Bethpage, N.Y.
March 26, 2006
Meals That Moms Can Almost Call Their Own
By KIM SEVERSON and JULIA MOSKIN
SEATTLE — Jodi Robbins and her family were on a grim dinnertime merry-go-round.
Takeout pizza was a mainstay, except on the nights when Chinese food seemed more appealing. When Ms. Robbins cooked, it was spaghetti or tuna casserole over and over, with rarely enough time to make a salad.
Their routine was expensive, fattening and boring. In the rush to get through the day, the family had lost control of the dinner table.
So Ms. Robbins now goes to Dream Dinners in West Seattle, where she spends just under two hours assembling dishes like cheesy chicken casserole and Salisbury steak from ingredients that have been peeled and chopped for her. She does not have to pick up a knife, turn on a stove or wash a dish.
All she has to do is pop the meals in her oven and, for about $3.50 a serving, experience the satisfaction of putting a home-cooked meal — of a sort — on the table.
Americans, pinched for time and increasingly uncomfortable in their kitchens, have been on a 50-year slide away from home cooking. Now, at almost 700 meal assembly centers around the country, families like the Robbinses prepare two weeks’ worth of dinners they can call their own with little more effort than it takes to buy a rotisserie chicken and a bag of salad.
The centers are opening at a rate of about 40 a month, mostly in strip malls and office parks in the nation’s suburbs and smaller cities, and are projected to earn $270 million this year, according to the Easy Meal Prep Association, the industry’s trade group.
“It’s been keeping us from ordering pizza all the time,” Ms. Robbins said. “And you still feel like you’re cooking.”
The prototype, a kind of elevated cooking session among friends in a commercial kitchen, popped up in the Northwest in 1999. The concept did not take off until 2002, when two Seattle-area women streamlined the process so customers could make 12 dinners for six in two hours for under $200. That company became Dream Dinners, which opened a year later and now has 112 franchise stores, with 64 under construction.
Super Suppers, which opened a year later in Fort Worth, is the largest chain, with 121 franchise stores and 77 more under construction. For people with few cooking skills, the centers keep things simple with a rotating menu of mostly stews and casseroles designed to be assembled in freezer bags or aluminum trays, then taken home to be baked or simmered in a single pot.
Customers select their dishes online ahead of time. When they show up, they follow recipes that hang over restaurant-style work stations filled with ingredients like frozen chicken breasts, chopped onions and jars of seasonings.
Cheerful workers hover around, carting off measuring spoons as soon as they are dirty and pouring fresh coffee. They encourage the calorie conscious or sodium sensitive to customize meals. And if someone hates broccoli, it can be left out. For people who feel guilty about not cooking for their families, the centers offer absolution in just a couple of hours.
Lisa Johnson, who lives in a suburb of Raleigh, N.C., especially hates shopping and cleanup. But she is determined to keep the family together at the table, at least occasionally. She became a meal assembly convert after just one visit.
“We’re always hearing that eating dinner together is the cure for obesity, learning disorders, drugs, divorce and every kind of problem we have in society,” she said. “But what no one tells you is how to do all that cooking.”
Although women still do 80 percent of the food-related work at home, the amount of time Americans spend cooking dinner has declined to about 30 minutes from about two and a half hours since the 1960′s, according to market research by Mintel International and the NPD Group. At the same time, the country is showing signs of restaurant fatigue. Spending in restaurants, which had been growing steadily since World War II, has been flat since 2001.
Meal assembly centers are not necessarily a return to the home-cooked food generations grew up eating. For one thing, no one actually cooks at them. The chopped vegetables and frozen meats at most of the centers come from industrial food suppliers like Sysco, and recipes include ingredients like canned wax beans and that old hot dish standby, cream of chicken soup. Nothing is actually cooked on site, although workers in the back room might chop scallions or slice raw beef into serving sizes.
But it may be a start.
“With every generation, fewer and fewer girls — and boys — are growing up hanging around the kitchen,” said Laura Shapiro, who writes about modern cooking in America. “But the incredible popularity of cooking shows on TV shows that people are hungry to cook, hungry to be in the kitchen.”
Even an “assembled” family meal will always be more meaningful than takeout because of the physical connection between the cook, the food and the family, said Bradd Shore, director of the Emory Center on Myth and Ritual in American Life.
“When a mother says, ‘Do you like my lasagna?’ that is much more loaded than ‘Do you like the lasagna?’ ” Dr. Shore said. “The fact that she made it with her hands is powerful.”
Mayra Didomenico, a mother of two and a pharmacist, just wants to save time and money.
“Every week I go to the supermarket and spend $200 and I still have to cook it,” she said as she filled bags with frozen marmalade-glazed pork chops at a new Super Suppers store in Bethpage, N.Y.
So why not just buy frozen food? “At least here I am seeing the ingredients,” she said.
In addition to dinner, the centers offer a kind of canned camaraderie.
“People are looking for a communal feeling, whether it’s around a table eating together or in a storefront measuring food into little bags with their friends,” said Marc Halperin, director of the Center for Culinary Development in San Francisco, which develops products for clients like Kellogg’s and Starbucks.
Meal assembly centers often encourage customers to attend with friends, drink wine while they “cook” and even dance, as a set of couples did on a recent night at Super Suppers in Bethpage.
“They turned off the music, pulled out a big-screen TV and we all watched ‘American Idol,’ ” said Evan Glass, a construction company executive.
Stephanie Allen, who helped found Dream Dinners in the Seattle area in 2002, says her customers first come in with friends, but after two or three visits return alone. “They want to get in and get out and get their dinners done,” Ms. Allen said. “They can say, this is something I made, I can have my in-laws over to dinner, and I won’t get a hard time from them.”
As long as the in-laws are not food critics. Some of the nation’s most experienced cooking professionals who attended a food panel recently at New York University had never heard of meal preparation centers. Once it was explained, they expressed disdain.
“People basically don’t want to cook but they don’t want to be told they are not cooking,” said Madhur Jaffrey, the Indian cookbook author and actor. “It’s an illusion.”
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Parents Age, Baby Boomers and Business Struggle to Cope
C.J. Gunther for The New York Times
Edith Tusubira, right, a nurse, helped Bernice Goodman at the home of Ms. Goodman’s daughter Nancy in West Roxbury, Mass. Nancy Goodman’s company offers care benefits, but she says they are nearly useless.
March 25, 2006
As Parents Age, Baby Boomers and Business Struggle to Cope
By JANE GROSS
Nancy Goodman’s employer, a telecommunications company in Boston, offers benefits to help employees care for elderly parents. But she found them nearly useless during four years of caring for her mother, who has Parkinson’s disease, and her father, who died of kidney failure last year.
“They say they want to do the right thing,” Ms. Goodman, 58, said of her employer, which she would not identify for fear of losing her job. “But when it comes down to it, they’re not seeing the true picture.”
Ms. Goodman’s lament is common, as corporate America scrambles to help the soaring number of baby boomers, mostly working women, whose obligation to frail, elderly parents results in absenteeism, workday distractions or stress-related health problems.
Companies are responding, but experts say they often use child care benefits as a model when they do not suit the different and unpredictable needs of the elderly. In addition, at a time of cutbacks in expensive health insurance and pensions, the most commonly offered benefits are those that cost a company little or nothing, like referral services and unpaid leaves.
Ms. Goodman, for instance, tried her company’s referral service to supplement inadequate staffing when her parents lived at an assisted living center in Connecticut. It was “like going to the yellow pages,” she said, since it did not relieve her of the time-consuming tasks of arranging for and supervising the services from afar. Ms. Goodman was also entitled to a year’s leave of absence, a benefit a new mother might appreciate. But if she took a leave now, what happened if her mother lingered?
Employees with ailing parents, more than 20 million nationwide, cite other benefits that would allow them to focus more on their jobs, like geriatric case managers to guide them through the mysteries of Medicaid and Medicare, or backup care for emergencies like a last-minute business trip. Companies that offer this kind of hands-on assistance generally pay for at least part of the service.
But they are rare. According to the Society for Human Resource Management, which represents more than 200,000 human resource and other corporate officials, 39 percent of its members said in 2003 that elder care benefits were “too costly to be feasible.” Only 1 percent of their companies subsidized any elder care benefits last year. And only 3 percent offered the emergency backup care — subsidized or otherwise — that experts say saves money by keeping workers at work.
“The perception among companies is that they can’t afford elder care benefits,” said Frank Scanlan, a spokesman for the society.
It is the largest companies that are the most generous, but even those often subscribe to the mistaken notion that the Mommy Track and the Daughter Track are the same, said Chris Gatti, president of the Work Options Group in Superior, Colo. Work Options, whose clients employ 400,000 people nationwide, provides in-home care for children and the elderly.
“These benefits fall under the same umbrella but are fundamentally different,” Mr. Gatti said. “Child care programs are relatively straight-forward and easy to administer compared to elder care, which is a maze with lots of sharp corners and dark secluded places.”
An individual supervisor can ease an employee’s burden but still leave them vulnerable to management changes. Just 6 percent of employers have written policies about elder care, according to surveys by the Society for Human Resource Management, while 76 percent say they help employees on a case-by-case basis.
For Ms. Goodman, the one godsend since her father died and her mother moved into her Boston apartment has been permission to work at home. But that is likely to change with a new boss. “I’m walking on eggs right now,” Ms. Goodman said.
The distinctions between child care and elder care have become apparent as the first of the 77 million baby boomers turn 60 and their parents live past 85, joining the fastest-growing segment of the population.
The most obvious is that children’s schedules are predictable — a school holiday next Monday — while elderly parents’ needs — a trip to the emergency room — are crisis-driven. Also, children are raised at home; an elderly parent often lives far away.
Guiding the decisions of an elderly parent also requires mastery of arcane legal, financial and medical matters.
“It’s a new and very confusing skill set,” said Maureen Corcoran, a vice president at Prudential Financial. “You don’t just give people a list; you lead them there. Otherwise they spend hours upon hours figuring it out themselves.”
For both employees and employers, the costs of elder care are enormous, according to studies by the MetLife Mature Market Institute, which is in the midst of updated analysis to reflect rapidly changing demographics.
The price tag for employers in 1997 ranged from $11.5 billion to $29 billion a year. Most expensive were the replacement of lost workers (at least $4.9 billion a year), workday interruptions ($3.7 billion) and absenteeism ($885 million). The employees lose salary, Social Security and pension benefits as a result of refusing promotions, switching to part-time work or retiring early.
Certain benefits mitigate these costs, and certain companies have learned there is a clear return on investment. At Prudential, for instance, subsidized emergency backup care prevents absenteeism and workday interruptions. Prudential’s 21,000 employees, with one phone call to Work Options Group, can get help for parents by the next morning, for a co-payment of $4 an hour.
A $20-an-hour aide, on an eight-hour shift, would otherwise cost a Prudential employee $160, rather than $32. Yet the company says it will save $650,000 during a three-year contract with Work Options, Ms. Corcoran said, because “if our employees needs are taken care of, they can focus on work.”
Diane Yankencheck, a Prudential employee in Newark, said the service kept her working during a crisis. Her father has a degenerative neurological disease and round-the-clock care. Her mother manages the household, or did until she broke her wrist. Now an aide from Work Options cooks, cleans and helps her bathe and dress.
Kent Burtis, a Verizon technician in Bayville, N.J., uses similar backup care for his father, who is paralyzed and incontinent. For a while, Mr. Burtis spent hours before work feeding, diapering and dressing him. Now an aide does the morning shift. “It’s kept me from slitting my throat,” Mr. Burtis said.
Elder care benefits most often seem a luxury at small companies and nonprofits. So even at AARP, dedicated to the needs of older Americans, Deborah Russell, the director of work force issues, was daunted by coordinating long-distance care for her mother and then missing weeks of work to be at her bedside when death neared.
Ms. Russell and her two sisters, grateful for AARP’s excellent referral service, still spent “an inordinate amount of time on the telephone” during working hours, distracted and unproductive. As their mother’s condition deteriorated, and the siblings rotated weeks in Florida, Ms. Russell used paid vacation time rather than the 12 weeks of unpaid leave guaranteed by the federal Family Medical Leave Act or AARP’s more generous 16-week program, also unpaid.
Another benefit assumed to be useful is the flexible spending account, governed by the Internal Revenue Service and widely offered by companies. It permits the use of pretax dollars for dependent care, as long as the dependent meets the I.R.S. definition. Virtually all children do, but most aged parents do not. That means tax breaks for baby sitters but not companions for the elderly.
Experts disagree about whether women will push employers for help with their parents, as they did 30 years ago when child care was their pressing issue.
Ellen Galinsky, 63, president of the Family and Work Institute, led the charge for a day care center at Bank Street College when she was a researcher there in 1969. After “huge resistance,” the center opened in 1974. Ms. Galinsky predicts a similar awakening to elder care issues because “demographics are destiny.”
“Everyone I know is dealing with this,” said Ms. Galinsky, who recently stayed at the bedside of her 98-year-old mother for the last two months of her life. The institute allows unlimited sick leave for such family emergencies. But even with that leeway, Ms. Galinsky said: “I was on another planet. It’s like no other experience. I barely have words for how hard it is.”
Todd Groves, founder of LTC Financial Partners in Seattle, who advises human resource managers on long term care, is not convinced that women like Ms. Galinsky will have the same galvanizing effect this time around, regardless of their numbers or their passion.
“Back then you still had a paternal business culture,” Mr. Groves said. “Now people feel out on their own. They are fearful about their careers and don’t feel they can ask for help.”
The Bounty of Rome
Chris Warde-Jones for The New York Times
At Osteria dell’Angelo: a puntarelle salad, tripe and tonnarelli cacio e pepe, a typical Roman pasta with cheese and pepper.
March 26, 2006
The Bounty of Rome
By MIMI SHERATON
HOW does Rome taste? An odd question perhaps, but the sort that comes to mind when I read travel accounts that define cities by sights and sounds, colors and tempo. What about the flavor, I wonder, meaning that more literally than figuratively.
Say Rome to me and my first thoughts are not of the swirling traffic around the marble wedding cake that is a monument to Vittorio Emanuele II, nor of the eaten-out stone melon that is the Colosseum, nor of the “Dolce Vita” set as immortalized by Fellini. Rather, I think first of the creamy foam, or spuma, that tops lightly sugared espresso at the always jammed Sant’Eustachio around the corner from the Pantheon, the coffee bar that I still consider this city’s best.
Next, thoughts turn to Rome’s own big, round globe artichokes available from late February to mid-April and most succulent simmered in olive oil with mint and parsley alla Romana or as carciofi alla giudea flattened and fried to resemble dried sunflowers and one of the many Jewish culinary inheritances from the city’s Ghetto preparations that do almost as well by other artichoke varieties in other seasons.
Among Roman pastas, I remember favorites such as the guanciale-and-egg-decked carbonara, cacio e pepe with its cheese and pepper sting, the mellow tomato-and-onion-sauced amatriciana and the unusual, delectable pajata (pronounced pie-YAH-tah), pasta tossed with chopped intestines of newly born lambs that still hold remains of milk, resulting in a creamy, meaty tomato sauce. And gnocchi alla Romana, unlike others in Italy, are rounds of semolina baked under a golden glaze of butter and cheese, an elegant variation.
These lusty eaters enjoy their meats close to the bone, gnawing through roasted abbacchio lamb, suckling pig or braised oxtails. They dote on innards like tomato-simmered tripe and tantalizingly chewy coratella, a savory hash of mixed lamb organs. Suffusing all are the seasonings that define the Roman kitchen: the air-cured pig’s jowl bacon called guanciale; salt-etched anchovies; garlic; fiery, red peperoncino chilies; black pepper; the pungent sheep’s milk cheese pecorino; and rosemary, sage, parsley and minty mentuccia.
Trying for a genuine sense of place ever more elusive in these days of global homogenization I seek out restaurants featuring traditional dishes and am therefore as unlikely to order artichokes alla Romana in Kiev as to try chicken Kiev in Rome. But it is in markets and shops that I discover most about local food and manners, scouting regional products to look for on menus. Even more intriguing is the tense interaction of vendors and buyers bustling through daily routines, exhibiting manners and mores, trusting or not, bargaining or not, according to local custom.
For enticing displays of both food and folkways, there is no better market in Rome than the Campo dei Fiori right in the heart of the city. A veritable stage set of an antique marketplace, facing the 16th-century Palazzo Farnese and bordered by romantically faded buildings, cafes and restaurants, it comes to life every morning (except Sunday) until 1:30 p.m. The site of public executions during the Renaissance, it is now dedicated to far more felicitous pursuits.
Vegetable and fruit stalls are gardens of temptations, the heavenly artichokes still on long, leafy stems, and in season there is the particularly Roman puntarelle, a tangy salad green with long, jagged leaves, and the tiny sweet strawberries fragoline di Nemi that grow wild in the Castelli hills of Lazio, Rome’s province. Usually there is broccolo Romano, a spring green cross between cauliflower and broccoli in pyramid-shaped heads formed of tiny shell-like nodules.
Last fall, I learned more about it in the home kitchen of Paola di Mauro, the culinary doyenne of a wine-producing restaurant family. She has informed the work of many Italian-American chefs including Mario Batali. Among other bracing Roman dishes, she prepared a lovely soup of that broccoli, based on a soffrito, a sauted, minced blend of guanciale, garlic and parsley, and served it with thread-thin vermicelli and grated pecorino.
Fresh mushrooms prevail at some stands in the Campo dei Fiori, while the ancient-looking dried versions are in stock at others. At least six sizes and shapes of zucchini, crimson tomatoes and peppers, garlands of garlic and giant bouquets of parsley and rosemary take center stage, while around the edges open shop stands offer flowers, meats, poultry, cheeses and breads, all noisily hawked by vendors to every passer-by. Each time I return to this market, I am most surprised by the aromas. As beautiful as New York’s Greenmarkets are, rarely do apples, pears, grapes, strawberries and, I swear, artichokes exude the perfumes of those at this Roman treasure.
Similar charms abound in the less expensive, more rustic open market in Testaccio, an old district that is a place of sylvan parks and tree-shaded residential streets, but once the center for slaughterhouses and still known as the quinto quarto, or fifth quarter, referring to the innards and trimmings butchers kept for themselves. There one finds the piled-up enticements at Volpetti, a salumeria where, among the luxurious delicatessen, cheeses and candies, I first sampled corallina. It is Rome’s prized fresh salami of spicy, lean pork and lard, once relegated to Easter but now available year round, thanks to refrigeration.
Romans claim two special breads the round rosetta with a top pattern suggesting an open rose, and the crusty, oblong pane di Genzano, which comes from a town in Lazio on the slopes of a volcanic crater.
At the sparkling bread bakery and casual food shop that is Compagnia del Pane, the delicious rosetta is baked, as is a house version of the Genzano. That and other breads are the base for many sandwiches that are eaten in or taken out, along with salads, a few hot dishes and pastries including one of the best cornetti (Italian for croissant) I had in the city sheer delight with the very hot and frothy cappuccino. About 10 or 15 minutes’ walk from St. Peter’s, this is just right for a restorative, inexpensive lunch.
Food is the lure, but obviously not the only reward. Typically, during a weeklong visit to Rome last fall, such quests took me and my husband, Richard Falcone, to parts of the city that we might not otherwise have visited, affording glimpses of different neighborhoods with brief stops for travel poster sights en route. Finally, because authentic Roman fare is served at all levels from the least expensive, casual trattorias like the beguiling, young-spirited Augusto in the winding walker’s paradise that is Trastevere to the stylishly urbane and clubby Al Moro, around the corner from the Trevi fountain one can see a range of social and economic differences in service, dress and tone, as well as humble to haute renditions of traditional specialties.
Since my first visit to Rome in 1953, I have begun restaurant rounds at Al Moro, a smartly compact, sophisticated spot displaying portraits of celebrity habitus like Federico Fellini and other denizens of Cinecitt and the literary world. Despite the coolly detached management attitude that Italians describe as strafottente, and the attempt to relegate foreigners to a separate room unless they specifically ask not to be, I am instantly disarmed by the temptations presented at the entrance. In season they might include fresh porcini, the egg-shaped white ovoli funghi, white truffles from Alba, cheeses, corallina and always prosciutto with its earthy, burnished flavor.
Oddly, waiters are friendly and accommodating, suggesting the perfect artichokes alla Romana followed by thick bucatini strands in a refined amatriciana sauce (named for Amatrice, the Lazio town of origin) with bits of guanciale, onion and tomato. Or it might be spaghetti Al Moro we recognize it as carbonara which according to house legend was created here after World War II to please American G.I.’s who ordered spaghetti, bacon and eggs. More likely, it originated in the Apennines where lumbermen cooked this simple pasta over fires of wood charcoal carbona. Consistently, Moro has also had the best spaghetti with clam sauce in the city, made with the tiny, greenish veraci clams that Romans adore, and sometimes at lunch, a coarse, garlicky cotechino sausage nested on broccoli sauted with garlic and olive oil.
Main course winners on my last visit were the Roman roasted lamb, abbacchio with rosemary-accented potatoes, fork-tender oxtail in an airy tomato sauce, and butter-gilded sauted sweetbreads with mushrooms. Fortunately we had just enough room for what must be the world’s most scrumptious bab, the rum-soaked yeast bun, here doused with satiny zabaglione.
If Al Moro reflects exclusivity, Il Matriciano practically announces inclusiveness. Close to the Vatican Museum, this is a series of modern, bright and convivial dining rooms, suggesting a big American steakhouse. About 20 to 30 percent lower in price than at Al Moro, most of the same specialties are served with dash and vigor. A house antipasto includes varieties of perfect prosciutto, cheese and tiny fried croquettes of artichokes, meatballs and the like. The Roman stracciatella soup, chicken broth frothed with beaten eggs, was light and lovely, and the thin, fresh egg noodles, tagliolini, were done alla gricia, sparely adorned only with guanciale and cheese, minus the eggs of carbonara. Amatriciana had meatier overtones than at Moro and was well matched with short thick tubes of rigatoni.
Fried lamb’s brains with zucchini could not have been more crisp or golden, nor could the big, rustic chunks of oxtail have been improved upon. Although a chocolate pie proved disappointing, it was redeemed by the irresistible millefoglie, a flaky Napoleon layered with custardy whipped cream.
Still descending in price, if neither in charm nor deliciousness, is Matricianella, a homey trattoria with outdoor tables on a narrow cobblestoned shopping street between the Piazza San Lorenzo in Lucina and Fontanella Borghese. As pleasant as sidewalk dining can be, serious feeders seem to favor the indoors. In or out, Matricianella provided the very best fried artichoke alla giudea of my visit, with just the right crackle to the outer leaves and the typical velvety softness of the heart. The same can be said for the blessedly hot carbonara with its eggs, cheese, nuggets of guanciale and needlings of black pepper. Rich tomato sauces enlivened silky tripe and, for another main course, Rome’s beloved salted codfish, baccal.
About 20 years ago I happened into Osteria dell’Angelo, then a tiny slice of a place in a quiet residential district, not far from the Vatican Museum, only to return whenever I am in Rome. Owned by the congenial Angelo Croce, a retired celebrated racecar driver, it grew into a much larger space still decked with photographs of many sports stars who have visited. Brown-paper-topped tables and a handsome stone floor retain the feeling of the tiny adjacent original, and the strictly Roman fare is listed in local dialect. Thus, the second courses appear on the menu as seconni instead of secondi, and sweets are dorci, not dolci, and nun instead of non means no.
Just as authentic are the no-frills versions of spaghetti or penne alla pajata, the innards still fresh enough to have the milk that tastes like a piquant ricotta. All the Roman pastas are generously served, if not all of them are served every day, and it would be wise to check the schedule for minestra di broccoli e arzilla, a soup of Roman broccoli in a broth of skate (arzilla) and piquant hot peppers.
Tripe, baccal, rabbit roasted with white wine and olives, and an anchovy tart are among weekly headliners. I’ve never made it to dessert but welcome a few cute biscotti to accompany a final espresso. The house features the wines of the Lazio in carafes adequate for two at lunch at 3.50 euros (about $4.25 at $1.22 to the euro).
On mild Roman afternoon and evenings, the young and the casual gather at the trestle tables set on a tiny, antique piazzetta in Trastevere, there to feast on the savory casalinga dishes of Augusto. Inside two cozy, white rooms hung with movie memorabilia, neighbors gather to chat and feed children. Daily menus change, but you could do no better than to catch the well-soaked and snowy baccal with tomatoes, olive oil and garlic, the tender pollo alla Romana chunks of chicken braised with tomatoes and rosemary any of the typical pastas and a sprightly salad of the bittersweet puntarelle or greens like chicory (cicoria) sweated with garlic in sunny Lazio olive oil.
Dispensing satisfying if not brilliant local fare to the solid bourgeois residents and market men of Testaccio since 1911, Perilli is a modestly priced period piece with white tablecloths, wine bottles and antipasto on display and romantic murals of antique Roman scenes. With old-time formality, waiters present appetizers like steamed, meat-filled zucchini and then rigatoni in a tomato and oxtail meat sauce, and for main courses, pork roasted with potatoes or tender grilled sweetbreads. The little veal roll-ups, involtini, were dry and bland, but there is more than enough here to allow one to enjoy Perilli’s old-time appeal.
Three other restaurants invariably mentioned when one asks for sources of Roman specialties are worth noting, because they proved to be a mixed bag.
The most frequently named is Checchino dal 1887, a 119-year old landmark in Testaccio. Offering a fully Roman menu, this tourist-conscious establishment makes it easy for the curious but cautious to try unknown fare. However, in at least four visits, including one in November, I have found dishes such as coratella, oxtails and involtini veal rolls, as well as classic Roman pastas, to be authentic, if less than sparklingly fresh or inspired. Thorough disasters included overcooked, mushy artichokes; gray, tough veal tongue in an oily green sauce; and all desserts including very tired cheeses. Service swings from helpful to borderline brusque toward non-Italians.
A spectacular artichoke dish is the only reason to visit Evangelista, an old-timer done up as a smartly modern bote. Most of the food we tried was lackluster, but the amazing house specialty, carciofi al mattone, makes this a must stop for aficionados of that thistle. Appearing as a bronze, crepelike disk, this riff on the artichoke alla giudea is made by frying the fully opened artichoke under a weight traditionally a brick, or mattone so that it emerges crackling crisp outside, yet meltingly tender within. That, plus a pasta like pappardelle with porcini and a glass of wine would make a satisfying lunch before a walk through the nearby Ghetto or along the Tiber.
Sora Lella is the sort of trattoria I would love to love, a charming old house on the Isola Tiberina, an island between Trastevere and the Ghetto that is also home to a centuries-old hospital and two churches. Despite the trattoria’s views of the Tiber and its thoroughly Roman menu, every dish seemed stalely reheated and bland. Too bad, because it was the only place that featured the centuries-old recipe for cinghiale agrodolce wild boar in a bittersweet sauce. The pork substituted for the boar would have been acceptable had it not been gray and dry and the sauce achingly sweet.
As much as possible we tried to sample the wines of Lazio, and found they had come a long way since the days when they were noted only for the whites of Frascati and Montefiascone. We had a pretrip sampling in New York last fall during a Roman food and wine week held at several restaurants like San Domenico and Union Square Cafe where, as red wine devotees, we favored the clear and sprightly I Quattro Mori from Castel de Paolis 2001 and the richer, more complex Racemo rosso l’Olivella 2000.
At Il Matriciano we found a robustly fruity, garnet-colored shiraz from Casale del Giglio for about $26. That same producer also accounted for the best white we tried, a fresh but mellow-edged Satrico chardonnay from Frascati. The tasting in New York was organized by Ian D’Agata, director of the International Wine Academy of Roma, a stunning multistoried installation in a 19th-century town palace beside the Spanish Steps. There one can have tastings of Lazio wines, among others, giving good reason to raise the Italian toast “A cent’anni” “To a hundred years” most suitable in this ancient city.
Soup to Biscotti
The country-city code is 39-06.
MARKETS AND SHOPS
Campo dei Fiori, Piazza Campo dei Fiori. Morning market until 1:30 p.m. every day except Sunday.
Compagnia del Pane, Via Fabio Massimo, 87a-89, 324-1605.
Gastronomia Volpetti, Via Marmorata, 47, Testaccio, 574-2352; www.volpetti.com.
ESPRESSO AND WINE BARS
Il Palazzetto, International Wine Academy of Rome, Vicolo del Bottino, 8, 699-0878; online at www.wineacademyroma.com.
Sant’Eustachio, Piazza Sant’Eustachio, 82, 688-02048.
RESTAURANTS
Prices include lunch or dinner with tip (service) but without wine.
Osteria dell’Angelo, Via G. Bettolo, 24, 372-9470. Lunch for two, about 40 euros, or $49 at $1.22 to the euro.
Augusto, Piazza de Renzi, 15, Trastevere, 80-3798. Lunch for two, about 28 euros.
Checchino dal 1887, Via Monte Testaccio, 30, 574-3816. Dinner for two, 90 euros.
Evangelista, Via della Zoccolette, 11/A, 687-5810. Dinner, 90 euros.
Matricianella, Via del Leone 2-4, 687-2100. Lunch, 70 euros.
Il Matriciano, Via dei Gracchi, 55, 321-3040. Dinner, 80 euros.
Al Moro, Vicolo delle Bollette, 13, 678-3495. Dinner, 100 euros.
Perilli a Testaccio, Via Marmorata, 39, 574-2415. Lunch, 70 euros.
MIMI SHERATON, a former food critic for The Times, is author, most recently, of “Eating My Words, An Appetite for Life” (William Morrow, 2004).
The Face of Atrocity in Baghdad
Max Becherer/Polaris, for The New York Times
Mohannad al-Azawi, 27, center, a Sunni, was dragged from his pet shop on March 12. His mutilated body, background, was found the next day.
March 26, 2006
Bound, Blindfolded and Dead: The Face of Atrocity in Baghdad
BAGHDAD, Iraq, March 25 — Mohannad al-Azawi had just finished sprinkling food in his bird cages at his pet shop in south Baghdad, when three carloads of gunmen pulled up.
In front of a crowd, he was grabbed by his shirt and driven off.
Mr. Azawi was among the few Sunni Arabs on the block, and, according to witnesses, when a Shiite friend tried to intervene, a gunman stuck a pistol to his head and said, “You want us to blow your brains out, too?”
Mr. Azawi’s body was found the next morning at a sewage treatment plant. A slight man who raised nightingales, he had been hogtied, drilled with power tools and shot.
In the last month, hundreds of men have been kidnapped, tortured and executed in Baghdad. As Iraqi and American leaders struggle to avert a civil war, the bodies keep piling up. The city’s homicide rate has tripled from 11 to 33 a day, military officials said. The period from March 7 to March 21 was typically brutal: at least 191 corpses, many mutilated, surfaced in garbage bins, drainage ditches, minibuses and pickup trucks.
There were the four Duleimi brothers, Khalid, Tarek, Taleb and Salaam, seized from their home in front of their wives. And Achmed Abdulsalam, last seen at a checkpoint in his freshly painted BMW and found dead under a bridge two days later. And Mushtak al-Nidawi, a law student nicknamed Titanic for his Leonardo DiCaprio good looks, whose body was returned to his family with his skull chopped in half.
What frightens Iraqis most about these gangland-style killings is the impunity. According to reports filed by family members and more than a dozen interviews, many men were taken in daylight, in public, with witnesses all around. Few cases, if any, have been investigated.
Part of the reason may be that most victims are Sunnis, and there is growing suspicion that they were killed by Shiite death squads backed by government forces in a cycle of sectarian revenge. This allegation has been circulating in Baghdad for months, and as more Sunnis turn up dead, more people are inclined to believe it.
“This is sectarian cleansing,” said Mahmoud Othman, a Kurdish member of Parliament, who has maintained a degree of neutrality between Shiites and Sunnis.
Mr. Othman said there were atrocities on each side. “But what is different is when Shiites get killed by suicide bombs, everyone comes together to fight the Sunni terrorists,” he said. “When Shiites kill Sunnis, there is no response, because much of this killing is done by militias connected to the government.”
The imbalance of killing, and the suspicion the government may be involved, is deepening the Shiite-Sunni divide, just as American officials are urging Sunni and Shiite leaders to form an inclusive government, hoping that such a show of unity will prevent a full-scale civil war.
The pressure is increasing on Prime Minister Ibrahim al-Jaafari, a Shiite, but few expect him to crack down, partly because he needs the support of the Shiite militias to stay in power.
Haidar al-Ibadi, Mr. Jaafari’s spokesman, acknowledged that “some of the police forces have been infiltrated.” But he said “outsiders,” rather than Iraqis, were to blame.
Now many Sunnis, who used to be the most anti-American community in Iraq, are asking for American help.
“If the Americans leave, we are finished,” said Hassan al-Azawi, whose brother was taken from the pet shop.
He thought for a moment more.
“We may be finished already.”
The human rights office of the Iraqi Islamic Party, a mostly Sunni group, has cataloged more than 540 cases of Sunni men and a few of Sunni women who were kidnapped and killed since Feb. 22, when a Shiite shrine in Samarra was destroyed, unleashing a wave of sectarian fury.
As the case of Mr. Azawi shows, some were easy targets.
Mr. Azawi was the youngest of five brothers. He was 27 and lived with his parents. He loved birds since he was a boy. Nightingales were his favorite. Then canaries, pigeons and doves.
During Saddam Hussein’s reign, he was drafted into the army, but he deserted.
“He was crazy about birds,” said a Shiite neighbor, Ibrahim Muhammad.
A few years ago, Mr. Azawi opened a small pet shop in Dawra, a rough-and-tumble, mostly Shiite neighborhood in southern Baghdad.
Friends said that Mr. Azawi was not interested in politics or religion. He never went to the Sunni mosque, though his brothers did. He did not pay attention to news or watch television. This characteristic might have cost him his life.
On Feb. 22, the Askariya Shrine in Samarra was attacked at 7 a.m. But Mr. Azawi did not know what had happened until 4 p.m., his friends said. He was in his own little world, tending his birds, when a Shiite shopkeeper broke the news and told him to close. He stayed in his house for three days after that. His friends said he was terrified.
The day of the shrine attack, Shiite mobs began rampaging through Baghdad, burning Sunni mosques and slaughtering Sunni residents. Some Sunnis struck back and killed Shiites. The mayhem claimed hundreds of lives and exposed tensions that until then had been bubbling just beneath the surface.
Two Shiite militias, the Badr Organization, which once trained in Iran, and the Mahdi Army, the foot soldiers of a young, firebrand Shiite cleric, Moktada al-Sadr, were blamed for much of the bloodshed. Mr. Sadr’s men often wear all-black uniforms, and many of the relatives of kidnapped people said men in black uniforms had taken them. Many people also said the men in black arrived with the police.
Around 9 on the night of the shrine bombing, a mob of black-clad men surrounded the Duleimi brothers, family members said.
The brothers lived in New Baghdad, a working-class neighborhood that is mostly Shiite. They were all gardeners and religious men who prayed five times a day. They had relatives in Falluja, in the heart of Sunni territory.
Where a family hails from in Iraq often reveals whether it is Sunni or Shiite. Nowadays, because of the sectarian friction, people are increasingly aware of the slight regional differences in accent, dress and name. Some first names, like Omar for Sunnis, or Haidar for Shiites, are clear giveaways. Others, like Khalid, are not. Tribal names can also be a sign.
A cousin of the Duleimi brothers, who identified himself as Khalaf, said the four men were taken at gunpoint from the small house they shared. The next day, their bodies turned up in a drainage ditch near Sadr City, a stronghold of the Mahdi Army. All their fingers and toes had been sawed off.
That same day Mushtak al-Nidawi, 20, was kidnapped. According to an aunt, Aliah al-Bakr, he was chatting on his cellphone outside his home in Bayah when a squad of Mahdi militiamen marched up the street, shouting, “We’re coming after you, Sunnis!”
Ms. Bakr said they snatched Mr. Nidawi while his mother stood at the door. His body surfaced on the streets seven days later, his skin a map of bruises, his handsome face burned by acid, his fingernails pulled out.
“I told his mother he was shot,” Ms. Bakr said.
Sheik Kamal al-Araji, a spokesman for Mr. Sadr, said “the Mahdi Army does not commit such crimes.”
He also said the militiamen would soon change their uniforms so they would no longer be confused with thugs.
The question of who exactly is behind these collective assassinations has become a delicate political issue. So has the disparity in the killings.
Many Sunni politicians, including secular ones like Methal al-Alusi, accuse the Shiite-led government of backing a campaign to wipe out Sunnis. Many Shiite leaders, including Prime Minister Jaafari, blame “foreign terrorists,” without being more specific.
Zalmay Khalilzad, the American ambassador, has expressed increasing alarm about militia violence, saying it is a bigger killer than car bombs, the former No. 1 security threat. But he has been careful to paint the problem in broad strokes, implying both sides are at fault.
There are a few Shiite victims, such as Mohammed Jabbar Hussein, who lived in a mostly Sunni area west of Baghdad. He disappeared on Feb. 26 and was found four days later, shot in the head.
But the militias under the greatest suspicion, and the ones with the strongest ties to the government, are Shiite. Maj. Gen. Rick Lynch, a spokesman for the American military, said Shiite militias have played a role in the killings and “the government of Iraq has to take action against the militias.”
Then there is the question of prosecution. While countless Sunni insurgents have been arrested and tried on murder charges, very few Shiite militiamen have been apprehended.
Thamir al-Janabi, who is in charge of the Interior Ministry’s criminal investigation department, declined to comment. So did several other Interior Ministry officials.
A new round of revenge attacks began March 12, around 6 p.m., when a string of car bombs exploded in Sadr City, killing nearly 50 civilians. Most security officials, Shiite and Sunni, blamed Sunni terrorists for the attack.
An hour and a half later, half a dozen gunmen arrived at Mr. Azawi’s pet shop.
Wisam Saad Nawaf was playing pool across the street. He said a man wearing a ski mask arrived with the gunmen, who were not wearing masks, and that when they grabbed Mr. Azawi, the masked man nodded.
“He must have been an informant from the neighborhood,” Mr. Nawaf explained.
Mr. Azawi got into a car. The gunmen closed the doors. The next morning Mr. Azawi’s body was found at the sewage plant. Autopsy photos showed how badly he was abused. His skin was covered with purple welts. His legs and face had drill holes in them. Both shoulders had been broken.
His brother Hassan carries the autopsy photos with him, along with a pistol.
“I cannot live without vengeance,” he said.
Hassan said there were a few Shiites at his brother’s funeral, which he took as a grim speck of hope.
One week later, on March 20, the body of Mr. Abdulsalam, another Sunni, was found under a bridge. Mr. Abdulsalam, 21, worked with his father in a real estate office. His family said he was last seen in his BMW, stopped at a Mahdi Army checkpoint.
Today’s Papers
From Russia With Love
By Daniel Politi
Posted Saturday, March 25, 2006, at 5:45 AM ET
The Washington Post leads with, the Los Angeles Times fronts, and the New York Times reefers revelations that Russian officials passed on intelligence about U.S. war plans and troop movements to Iraqi leaders in the early days of the American invasion. It seems the Russians might have had a spy inside the U.S. Central Command. The LAT leads with diplomatic sources saying that Iran could create enough highly enriched uranium to build a bomb within three years, instead of five to 10 years as was commonly believed. The NYT leads, and the WP goes inside, with the announcements by the United States and the European Union that they will impose sanctions against Belarussian leaders to denounce the arrest of hundreds of political protesters early Friday morning. The Wall Street Journal tops its worldwide newsbox with an Iraq roundup that includes the spying allegations and the announcement by Iraq’s president that a new unity government could be in place by the end of the month. At least 51 people, including two U.S. soldiers, were killed in attacks across Iraq yesterday (the rest of the papers mention the deaths in a wire story inside or a brief).
The Russian spying allegations were included in a 210-page study based on Iraqi documents and interviews with former leaders. Even though some of the information that was passed on was inaccurate, and it is unclear whether the Kremlin approved the operation, if the allegations are true it will almost certainly further strain the relationship between Washington and Moscow. “This is one step short of firing upon us themselves … It’s hard to get more unfriendly than that,” an analyst tells the LAT. The NYT mentions that since some of the information was false, it raises the possibility that the Russians might have been part of a U.S. military effort to fool Iraqi leaders.
In order to produce quick results, Iran seems to be trying to put together as many centrifuges as possible in a short period of time. But experts still emphasized that the three-year estimate is a best-case scenario for Iran since it still has to overcome several important technological hurdles that could easily cause delays.
The sanctions on Belarussian leaders will probably involve travel and financial restrictions. The United States called on Belarus to release all of the protesters who were arrested while demonstrating against the March 19 elections, which are widely believed to have been a sham. The NYT is the only one to follow up on the arrests from Minsk and says that, according to opposition leaders, most of those arrested were given a 10-day sentence. Prison officials refused to release a list of the detained.
In a Page One article, the NYT seeks to explain why there has been less talk about Abu Musab al-Zarqawi lately. Al-Zarqawi, who is the head of al-Qaida in Mesopotamia, is keeping a low profile as his group has supposedly joined forces with other insurgent organizations to create the Mujahadeen Shura (Council of Holy Warriors), which is allegedly under Iraqi leadership. Under the new structure, al-Zarqawi’s group has toned down the rhetoric and no longer claims responsibility for large civilian attacks. It is possible that by passing on the leadership to an Iraqi, al-Zarqawi is now ready to set up terrorist groups in other countries in the region.
The Post goes inside with new rules proposed by the Federal Elections Commission that would pretty much extend the media exemption to the online world, thereby permitting Web sites and bloggers to attack or praise candidates. Campaign advertisements on the Internet will have to be paid with money regulated by federal campaign law and must carry a disclaimer. For the most part, bloggers and their advocates welcomed the new proposals.
The NYT fronts news that the American Red Cross fired two supervisors yesterday as a consequence of its investigations into irregularities in the New Orleans relief operations. The two were in charge of the kitchens and shelters and, like 95 percent of those who work for the Red Cross, they were volunteers.
After the whole Dubai ports kerfuffle, the WSJ reports that lawmakers are seeking to have more leverage when it comes to approving foreign investments in the United States. The Senate banking chairman is seeking to introduce a bill that would allow Congress to scrutinize these deals. Some business groups, along with administration officials, fear this could harm the U.S. economy.
The LAT picks up the story that Barbara Bush donated money for Hurricane Katrina evacuees in Houston, and specifically instructed that part of the money be spent on buying educational software from her son Neil’s company. Although the LAT does not mention it, the Houston Chronicle first reported this story on Thursday. The WP‘s Al Kamen mentioned the story in his column yesterday, and credited the Chronicle for the scoop.
The LAT and WP report that a conservative blogger hired by the WP‘s Web site resigned soon after evidence surfaced in liberal blogs that he plagiarized part of a movie review he wrote for the National Review Online. Earlier, liberal blogs had raised issues of plagiarism with some articles he wrote for his college paper. The 24-year-old Ben Domenech had started the blog, titled Red America, only three days earlier. His hiring was met with complaints from readers who questioned his qualifications and some of his earlier statements that included calling Coretta Scott King a “communist.”
Sounds like a blogger … The WSJ reports that judging by such factors as electricity and water consumption, it is clear that more people in the country are waking up earlier than ever. This has resulted in some businesses realizing this trend and adjusting their schedules. For example, CNN has changed the start time of its morning news show from 7 a.m. to 6 a.m. and some stores, such as Staples, are opening earlier. As a result of increased around-the-clock connectivity with the office, many are realizing that the early morning is the only time they can have to themselves. Some, however, are not affected. Hugh Hefner, the founder and editor in chief of Playboy magazine, says he wakes up in the late morning and when he gets ready for work he simply changes “out of one pair of pajamas and into another.”
Daniel Politi is a writer living in Buenos Aires, Argentina.